You’re So Stupid!
November 10, 2008 by Kailani
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Can you believe that a 10 year old boy told me that on a recent flight I was working?
I was doing the first beverage service when I came to his row and asked if he would like something to drink. He looked at me, looked away, and continued to play his Nintendo DS. So I looked at his mom sitting behind him and asked her what her son would like to drink. “Just give him a Coke.” she said.
I placed the cup of Coke on his tray which he immediately picked up and threw on the ground. “I don’t want this!” he yelled as Coke flew everywhere. I was shocked! However, I decided it was a family issue and continued on to the next row. Next thing I knew, the mom was flagging me down. “My son dropped his drink. Could he get another one?”
As I placed the drink on her tray table I replied, “I don’t think he accidentally dropped it but here’s another one anyway.” I thought that would be the end of that.
However, as I was approaching his row during the meal service he said, “Throw this away for me.” and proceeded to try and give me this enormous amount of trash he collected. I explained to him that I was currently serving meals and had nowhere to put all the trash he was trying to give me. I would be back shortly with a trash bag to take his things.
That’s when he stared at me and said, “You’re so stupid” and threw his trash at my feet.
OMG! And he said it loud enough that I knew his parents had to have heard him. In fact, passengers 3 rows behind him heard what was going on! I decided not to give him a meal and continued on to the next row.
Of course, the mom is now calling me. “Excuse me, you forgot to give my son his meal!” I turned to her and said, “He’ll get his meal when he apologizes for calling me names and picks up all the trash he threw on the ground.”
What does this mom do? She starts picking up all his trash and gives him her meal instead. What in the world does she think she’s teaching him by letting him get away with such rude behavior? And what was the dad doing all this time? Ignoring both of them and drinking his Vodka Tonic.
I just hope I don’t see them again on their return flight home. *sigh*
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It’s no wonder how that little boy turned out that way!
Unfortunately, that is how many parents raise their children now. Parents are afraid to discipline their children because “little Johnny” won’t like them any more, or worse yet, he might call social services when they take away his DS. Many children have absolutely no respect for adults or the authorities because of this. I have raised my four children with respect and the knowledge that there are concequences to their actions. It all comes down to acountability.
I always say, Stupid Breeds Stupid. Classic case. How sad for not only them but any one that kid ever dates or marries. WOW!~
You did absolutely the right thing. I would have come very close to saying something I’d regret. The mother is a moron.
I envision, future wife beater or drunken slob.
I can’t believe a mom would set such a bad example and LET her son act like an a** and get away with it. He will never learn. I’m afraid I wouldn’t be serving him, either.
I am so sorry, Kailani. I can’t imagine what it would be like to have to serve someone (especially a child) who treats you with no respect, let alone to have to watch his parents ignore (and encourage) his behavior.
I am so proud of you for standing your ground (even if his mom still took his side). I would probably have been reduced to tears and hid for the rest of the flight.
Yep. They’ve got all the moves to raise a right charmer there.
Seriously…what are some parents thinking? He’s going to be a horrendous adult!
I think the mother’s behavior is worse than the child’s. It is the parents’ responsibility to teach manners.
I can’t even imagine letting my daughter act like that at home, let alone in public. It’s appalling that there are parents that encourage and ignore such behavior. I’m sorry you had to deal with such disrepect from both parent and child, but I think you handled it very well. Much better than I would have.
Holy freaking cow! That is absolute madness. I’m so frustrated by the lack of actual parenting some adults display these days.
unbelievable – bless your heart and good for you for standing up for common decency!
My son is barely 5 and knows better than that. Seriously, people don’t realize how much parenting (or lack thereof) is that cause of these kids behavior.
I would have had a big can of Whoop -A$$ for him if he was my son!! I can’t stand it when I even THINK of my kids being rude to adults! I am so sorry that happened to you & YES, I sure hope you don’t get him again!!
How horrible!
Unfortunately he probably learned it from his father, who likely treats his mother the same way. Why else would (1) she put it up with it; and (2) the father completely ignore it!
I feel for the mother, she probably suffers greatly from emotional (if not more) abuse, if not from her husband, then definitely from her son. And, if she doesn’t , and is just putting up with the horrendous behavior, then she’ll be sorry in the end when that same son does not take care of her properly in her end days.
All that said, I think you handled it well. I would not have been so kind.
That’s just ridiculous. I’m glad you stood up for yourself!
Now that I’ve picked my jaw up off my keyboard, the only thing I can think to type is, “WOW!”
I would have beat the living snot out of my kid long before he got to this point!!!! The nerve of some parents.
Your blog post was so good that I stumbled it and gave you a thumbs up!!!! You deserve it after that episode!
-Barb
Please you for having such a patience.
It’s great that you posted this so that other parents can read it. Sometimes people need little reminders that children need guidance no matter what age!
Wow… and what disappoints me the most is that the dad did nothing ?!
Hmm..
I guess we now know why he was drinking. I’ve seen so many parents like this and I just want to take them by the shirt, shake them and tell them to snap out of whatever world they are living in and move into this one and teach their kids right from wrong.
OMG People really act like that on airplanes? That is scary.
Ya know as a flight attendant that doesnt suprise me at all.. not one bit! Its amazing isnt it? sorry you were treated so badly!
Hard to believe there could actually be people like that–it’s almost more of a movie!
You sure handled it well though, I would have wanted to dump that Coke on his head.
My goodness! Unbelievable! But good for you for not taking that kind of disrespect and rude behavior from a 10 year old, or anyone for that matter! That shameful that the parents would allow their child to treat you that way!
There’s no accounting for their parenting skills, but I’m proud of you for sticking to your principles. You rock, Kailani.
That is why he is the way he is! Geez! On a side note, my daughters always considered the word “stupid” as the “S word” and “Shut up” was the “other S word”.
Neither one was tolerated in our house. And even now, at the age of 18 & 19, they do not use it since it was never a part of their vocabulary.
Yeah, that wouldn’t fly with me either. I think you did the right thing in not serving him. I can’t believe his Mom allowed him to get away with that. So sad for his future.
I’m sorry you had to deal with such behavior… but can you imagine being his teacher!!!!
Just like Lissete said… the “S” word is considered a “potty” word in our house!
First, I try to raise my children to NOT behave this way. And second, if by the off chance, they forget their upbringing, I’ll just say the very unPC thing and tell you. someone will be in for a butt beating.
I am SO sorry that this happened to you.
Grrrr! What a rotten little brat!
Oh if I would have been behind them you know I would have let it rip on the mother!
OMG.. What kind of parenting does she have in her house? There is no way my kids will talk to any adults like that let alone me sitting next to them. I’m glad you kept your calm and cool. I don’t know what I will do if I was in your shoes. Smack him, maybe?
Wow, that’s a whole new level of parental stupidity. Child gods rule in that house! So sad.
Hugs,
Holly
Sounds like maybe he has some “issues” – be it autism, bi-polar disorder or maybe ODD. And to agree with everyone else, his mother is doing him NO favors by enabling him and his behavior. I work at a facility for adults with MR/DD and various other psychological and medical conditions and see stuff like this every day. *sigh*
How sad.. my goodness.. the way kids are being raised these days.. to get whatever they want. I hope you don’t have to see them again as well.
That’s appalling! Well we know where rude adults come from. It sure is a shame that as a society we’ve deviated from everyone showing eachother respect.
Other than the very long decent on the flight to CA we had good flights. We were seated near the flight crew on the way out, and I didn’t hear them complaining about any of the passengers…so I guess everone behaved.
WOW. I am stunned and appalled that anyone would just let a child behave in that manner. What a disgrace.
OMG! what a story. what a spoiled little shit!!!! now that i’m a mommy, and i see unruly kids, i fully blame the parents. his mom is creating a monster only becasue she has no discipline.
wow, he’ll get hit with the real world very soon and no matter what will have to change his attitude!
Ok, that boys behavior is beyond terrible. However, that mother is awful. No wonder he acts that way. That is just crazy. Especially for his age, it wasn’t like she was trying to keep a toddler calm, etc.
I don’t always blame the parents for kids behavior, but in this case it is a clear sign that mom & dad need some parenting classes!
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
Those parents are literally creating a monster. Isn’t what that kid did considered assaulting a flight attendant. Verbally abusing you AND throwing stuff at you? Too bad you were flying over water. You could have landed and had them thrown off.
Unbelievable! Kids need rules, boundaries and this boy definitely hasn’t got any. This is only the beginning, what is he going to be like when he’s 16?
Thanks for sharing this story.
way to go! you did an excellent job ( apparently you were the only one doing anything!!)
Good for you for demanding respect!
Good for you…. I’m sure it took a lot of self-control to say what you said (as opposed to something else!).
After reading Kailani’s post, the first thing that came to mind was, “How sad for this 10 year old boy to be so full of rage and so unhappy with his life.:
It seems like he must have been exposed to a lot of verbal or even (heaven forbid) physical abuse at home between his mother and father (You’re so stupid!) and knows he can’t do anything about it so takes it out on whomever he comes in contact (my goodness, this kid is only10 and is so full of anger that it has to be a “home” situation problem).
His mother seems very passive catering to his every need as she probably does for her husband at home and even though the father was aware of what was going on did nothing making him seem like a very “uncaring” father and husband.
I truly feel sorry for this child whose future seems bleak because I don’t see his parents changing (how sad).
I thought Kailani handled the situation very well. I really admire flight attendants for their hard work and I’m always amazed at how well they handle unexpected situations on their flights. Kudos to her.
That’s just awful. I can’t imagine what he’s going to be like as an adult!
Wow! Good for you for handling the situation so well. I don’t think I would have been able to. What a rude, ignorant family!
Holy Cow! That’s so completely unacceptable. Wow.
I’m glad you stood up for yourself! Maybe next time you should nicely remind the mother that assaulting a flight attendant will get them a meeting when the plane lands? If the parents aren’t going to show this kid what’s up then he needs to have consequences somehow.
I think you proved how smart you are…not stupid!
You’ve got to be kidding me… This ACTUALLY happened?! How can a parent be so… clueless? I think you handled the situation in a great manner! Good luck with not running into that bs any more!