You’re So Stupid!

November 10, 2008 by Kailani  
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Can you believe that a 10 year old boy told me that on a recent flight I was working?

I was doing the first beverage service when I came to his row and asked if he would like something to drink. He looked at me, looked away, and continued to play his Nintendo DS. So I looked at his mom sitting behind him and asked her what her son would like to drink. “Just give him a Coke.” she said.

I placed the cup of Coke on his tray which he immediately picked up and threw on the ground. “I don’t want this!” he yelled as Coke flew everywhere. I was shocked! However, I decided it was a family issue and continued on to the next row. Next thing I knew, the mom was flagging me down. “My son dropped his drink. Could he get another one?”

As I placed the drink on her tray table I replied, “I don’t think he accidentally dropped it but here’s another one anyway.” I thought that would be the end of that.

However, as I was approaching his row during the meal service he said, “Throw this away for me.” and proceeded to try and give me this enormous amount of trash he collected. I explained to him that I was currently serving meals and had nowhere to put all the trash he was trying to give me. I would be back shortly with a trash bag to take his things.

That’s when he stared at me and said, “You’re so stupid” and threw his trash at my feet.

OMG! And he said it loud enough that I knew his parents had to have heard him. In fact, passengers 3 rows behind him heard what was going on! I decided not to give him a meal and continued on to the next row.

Of course, the mom is now calling me. “Excuse me, you forgot to give my son his meal!” I turned to her and said, “He’ll get his meal when he apologizes for calling me names and picks up all the trash he threw on the ground.”

What does this mom do? She starts picking up all his trash and gives him her meal instead. What in the world does she think she’s teaching him by letting him get away with such rude behavior? And what was the dad doing all this time? Ignoring both of them and drinking his Vodka Tonic.

I just hope I don’t see them again on their return flight home. *sigh*

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Kailani is the owner and founder of An Island Life. You'll find her sharing her daily life as a mother to 3 wonderful daughters, working as a flight attendant, and living a blessed life in Hawaii. She is also the founder of the group review site - Family Review Network. Follow along on her adventure of a lifetime this Winter as a member of the Vaseline Dry Skin Patrol!
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88 Responses to “You’re So Stupid!”
  1. bunny says:

    It’s no wonder how that little boy turned out that way!

  2. Loralynn says:

    Unfortunately, that is how many parents raise their children now. Parents are afraid to discipline their children because “little Johnny” won’t like them any more, or worse yet, he might call social services when they take away his DS. Many children have absolutely no respect for adults or the authorities because of this. I have raised my four children with respect and the knowledge that there are concequences to their actions. It all comes down to acountability.

  3. Sheila says:

    I always say, Stupid Breeds Stupid. Classic case. How sad for not only them but any one that kid ever dates or marries. WOW!~

    You did absolutely the right thing. I would have come very close to saying something I’d regret. The mother is a moron.

    I envision, future wife beater or drunken slob.

  4. Forgetfulone says:

    I can’t believe a mom would set such a bad example and LET her son act like an a** and get away with it. He will never learn. I’m afraid I wouldn’t be serving him, either.

  5. Angela says:

    I am so sorry, Kailani. I can’t imagine what it would be like to have to serve someone (especially a child) who treats you with no respect, let alone to have to watch his parents ignore (and encourage) his behavior.

    I am so proud of you for standing your ground (even if his mom still took his side). I would probably have been reduced to tears and hid for the rest of the flight.

  6. witchypoo says:

    Yep. They’ve got all the moves to raise a right charmer there.

  7. Kendra Field says:

    Seriously…what are some parents thinking? He’s going to be a horrendous adult!

  8. Kristi says:

    I think the mother’s behavior is worse than the child’s. It is the parents’ responsibility to teach manners.

  9. Ren says:

    I can’t even imagine letting my daughter act like that at home, let alone in public. It’s appalling that there are parents that encourage and ignore such behavior. I’m sorry you had to deal with such disrepect from both parent and child, but I think you handled it very well. Much better than I would have.

  10. Summer says:

    Holy freaking cow! That is absolute madness. I’m so frustrated by the lack of actual parenting some adults display these days.

  11. jodi @ bpr says:

    unbelievable – bless your heart and good for you for standing up for common decency! :)

  12. Kim @ What's That Smell? says:

    My son is barely 5 and knows better than that. Seriously, people don’t realize how much parenting (or lack thereof) is that cause of these kids behavior.

  13. Sara McClintock says:

    I would have had a big can of Whoop -A$$ for him if he was my son!! I can’t stand it when I even THINK of my kids being rude to adults! I am so sorry that happened to you & YES, I sure hope you don’t get him again!!

  14. gomomyourock says:

    How horrible!

    Unfortunately he probably learned it from his father, who likely treats his mother the same way. Why else would (1) she put it up with it; and (2) the father completely ignore it!

    I feel for the mother, she probably suffers greatly from emotional (if not more) abuse, if not from her husband, then definitely from her son. And, if she doesn’t , and is just putting up with the horrendous behavior, then she’ll be sorry in the end when that same son does not take care of her properly in her end days.

    All that said, I think you handled it well. I would not have been so kind.

  15. Jen E @ mommablogsalot says:

    That’s just ridiculous. I’m glad you stood up for yourself!

  16. Tracey says:

    Now that I’ve picked my jaw up off my keyboard, the only thing I can think to type is, “WOW!”

  17. Barbara Baker says:

    I would have beat the living snot out of my kid long before he got to this point!!!! The nerve of some parents.

    Your blog post was so good that I stumbled it and gave you a thumbs up!!!! You deserve it after that episode!
    -Barb :)

  18. Pamela Kramer says:

    Please you for having such a patience. ;)

    It’s great that you posted this so that other parents can read it. Sometimes people need little reminders that children need guidance no matter what age!

  19. Leo (Healthy Tips For A Healthy Lifestyle) says:

    Wow… and what disappoints me the most is that the dad did nothing ?!
    Hmm..

  20. Kim says:

    I guess we now know why he was drinking. I’ve seen so many parents like this and I just want to take them by the shirt, shake them and tell them to snap out of whatever world they are living in and move into this one and teach their kids right from wrong.

  21. Cat @ 3 Kids and Us says:

    OMG People really act like that on airplanes? That is scary.

  22. Millicent C. says:

    Ya know as a flight attendant that doesnt suprise me at all.. not one bit! Its amazing isnt it? sorry you were treated so badly!

  23. Michelle at Scribbit says:

    Hard to believe there could actually be people like that–it’s almost more of a movie!

    You sure handled it well though, I would have wanted to dump that Coke on his head.

  24. Katie says:

    My goodness! Unbelievable! But good for you for not taking that kind of disrespect and rude behavior from a 10 year old, or anyone for that matter! That shameful that the parents would allow their child to treat you that way!

  25. Desert Songbird says:

    There’s no accounting for their parenting skills, but I’m proud of you for sticking to your principles. You rock, Kailani.

  26. Lissete says:

    That is why he is the way he is! Geez! On a side note, my daughters always considered the word “stupid” as the “S word” and “Shut up” was the “other S word”. :) Neither one was tolerated in our house. And even now, at the age of 18 & 19, they do not use it since it was never a part of their vocabulary.

  27. AmyG says:

    Yeah, that wouldn’t fly with me either. I think you did the right thing in not serving him. I can’t believe his Mom allowed him to get away with that. So sad for his future.

  28. Melissa says:

    I’m sorry you had to deal with such behavior… but can you imagine being his teacher!!!!
    Just like Lissete said… the “S” word is considered a “potty” word in our house!

  29. desi says:

    First, I try to raise my children to NOT behave this way. And second, if by the off chance, they forget their upbringing, I’ll just say the very unPC thing and tell you. someone will be in for a butt beating.

  30. Angela says:

    I am SO sorry that this happened to you.

  31. Storm says:

    Grrrr! What a rotten little brat!

    Oh if I would have been behind them you know I would have let it rip on the mother!

  32. Amy @ The Q Family says:

    OMG.. What kind of parenting does she have in her house? There is no way my kids will talk to any adults like that let alone me sitting next to them. I’m glad you kept your calm and cool. I don’t know what I will do if I was in your shoes. Smack him, maybe? ;)

  33. Holly Schwendiman says:

    Wow, that’s a whole new level of parental stupidity. Child gods rule in that house! So sad.

    Hugs,
    Holly

  34. LuAnn says:

    Sounds like maybe he has some “issues” – be it autism, bi-polar disorder or maybe ODD. And to agree with everyone else, his mother is doing him NO favors by enabling him and his behavior. I work at a facility for adults with MR/DD and various other psychological and medical conditions and see stuff like this every day. *sigh*

  35. Tara says:

    How sad.. my goodness.. the way kids are being raised these days.. to get whatever they want. I hope you don’t have to see them again as well.

  36. Renee says:

    That’s appalling! Well we know where rude adults come from. It sure is a shame that as a society we’ve deviated from everyone showing eachother respect.
    Other than the very long decent on the flight to CA we had good flights. We were seated near the flight crew on the way out, and I didn’t hear them complaining about any of the passengers…so I guess everone behaved.

  37. Minxy Mimi says:

    WOW. I am stunned and appalled that anyone would just let a child behave in that manner. What a disgrace.

  38. marina says:

    OMG! what a story. what a spoiled little shit!!!! now that i’m a mommy, and i see unruly kids, i fully blame the parents. his mom is creating a monster only becasue she has no discipline.
    wow, he’ll get hit with the real world very soon and no matter what will have to change his attitude!

  39. Ginny says:

    Ok, that boys behavior is beyond terrible. However, that mother is awful. No wonder he acts that way. That is just crazy. Especially for his age, it wasn’t like she was trying to keep a toddler calm, etc.

    I don’t always blame the parents for kids behavior, but in this case it is a clear sign that mom & dad need some parenting classes!

  40. Cathi says:

    GOOD FOR YOU!!!
    Those parents are literally creating a monster. Isn’t what that kid did considered assaulting a flight attendant. Verbally abusing you AND throwing stuff at you? Too bad you were flying over water. You could have landed and had them thrown off.

  41. Ann says:

    Unbelievable! Kids need rules, boundaries and this boy definitely hasn’t got any. This is only the beginning, what is he going to be like when he’s 16?
    Thanks for sharing this story.

  42. tami lewis says:

    way to go! you did an excellent job ( apparently you were the only one doing anything!!)

  43. Thea @ I'm a Drama Mama says:

    Good for you for demanding respect!

  44. BlapherMJ says:

    :-( It’s so sad how some kids behave and their parents just reinforce it by allowing it…..

    Good for you…. I’m sure it took a lot of self-control to say what you said (as opposed to something else!).

  45. Mrs. EW says:

    After reading Kailani’s post, the first thing that came to mind was, “How sad for this 10 year old boy to be so full of rage and so unhappy with his life.:

    It seems like he must have been exposed to a lot of verbal or even (heaven forbid) physical abuse at home between his mother and father (You’re so stupid!) and knows he can’t do anything about it so takes it out on whomever he comes in contact (my goodness, this kid is only10 and is so full of anger that it has to be a “home” situation problem).

    His mother seems very passive catering to his every need as she probably does for her husband at home and even though the father was aware of what was going on did nothing making him seem like a very “uncaring” father and husband.

    I truly feel sorry for this child whose future seems bleak because I don’t see his parents changing (how sad).

    I thought Kailani handled the situation very well. I really admire flight attendants for their hard work and I’m always amazed at how well they handle unexpected situations on their flights. Kudos to her.

  46. Muthering Heights says:

    That’s just awful. I can’t imagine what he’s going to be like as an adult!

  47. Jaime says:

    Wow! Good for you for handling the situation so well. I don’t think I would have been able to. What a rude, ignorant family!

  48. Krista says:

    Holy Cow! That’s so completely unacceptable. Wow.
    I’m glad you stood up for yourself! Maybe next time you should nicely remind the mother that assaulting a flight attendant will get them a meeting when the plane lands? If the parents aren’t going to show this kid what’s up then he needs to have consequences somehow.

  49. thefarmerfiles says:

    I think you proved how smart you are…not stupid!

  50. Devin @ CoolProducts says:

    You’ve got to be kidding me… This ACTUALLY happened?! How can a parent be so… clueless? I think you handled the situation in a great manner! Good luck with not running into that bs any more!

  51. diana/sunshine says:

    OMGosh! so hard to believe that parents don’t have a clue in these kinds of situations. we can all guess what kind of person this kid will be when he’s an adult. sad, but also scary.

  52. mary beth says:

    having a child of my own I’m apalled by this! Just know all us mothers aren’t like that!!!! I’m not mean by any stretch but I want my child to mind and grow up with morals in this cruel world

  53. Dee says:

    i was wondering what age did you think the mother was? What race? Just wondering.

  54. Cindy Lietz, Polymer Clay Tutor says:

    How sad… Things have gotten out of control and all three of them have no skills to deal with it! Looks like they need a visit from the Super Nanny!

  55. Jenni Jiggety says:

    What a horrible little brat! Ugh.

  56. Charlotte (Charmed Life) says:

    he should be sent to a military school, including his parents ….

  57. Charlotte (Life's a Charm!) says:

    he should be sent to a military school, including his parents ….

  58. Kim says:

    I hope she’s ready for the teen years because she’s going to be in for it! She’s set a bad precedent! Good for your for calling him on his rudeness even if his mom didn’t.

  59. Michele @ The Integrated Mother says:

    Ugh…that is an awful experience, but I believe it! Some kids these days have become such entitlest bullies and their parents need to get some home training!

    p.s. I absolutely LOVE your blog format…how creative!

  60. Kristen M. says:

    I’m sure you’ve been told this already but you need to write a book!

  61. MaryBeth @ FourSillySisters says:

    My hubbie is a commercial pilot and he’s had quite a few tales of ill behaving people on airplanes…. but I think this one takes the cake! Wow!! You did a great job standing up for yourself in such a polite manner. Not sure I could say the same for myself in that situation! Bravo…

  62. Morgan says:

    That is so horrible! I can’t imagine what their home life is like. Scary!

  63. Sues2u2 says:

    How sad. This child will never grow up to be the person that his potential would have made him all because his parents don’t care enough to discipline him.

    I am sorry that you had to go through something like that though. Kinda ruins @ least part of your day.

  64. Cathy says:

    I try so hard not to judge, because it’s impossible to know someone else’s story just from a brief interaction. But that mother doesn’t seem to be doing her child any favors raising him this way. I’m sorry you had to deal with that, and hope you never ever see them again!

  65. Alyson, the 3 P's Mama says:

    I almost stood up and cheered at your response to the little brat. His mom is doing him NO favors.

  66. Elizabeth says:

    I hope that was the last you saw of that family. I would have been reduced to tears by that. Imagine how that boy acts at home, too.

    My parents raised us to be respectful, we raise our children to be respectful. I would never, ever let one of my children act that rudely, no matter what personal problem they were having.

  67. Chris says:

    Everyone has said the obvious. That is whats wrong with this fool. When he grows up to high school age, I’ll get to deal with him at the alternative school.

  68. Kila at momto3cubs says:

    I guarantee you there is abuse on a daily basis in that family. The boy is repeating what he sees and hears from his dad. The mom’s wimpy behavior says a lot. And look at how good she is at making excuses. She’s an abused wife, and too beaten down to correct her son. And if she does try to, the dad’s influence out-does any good the mom has done.

  69. tracey says:

    Oh, what a DARLING child.

    Sigh….

  70. Spice says:

    Wow, what’s sad is it’s completely the parents fault why he’s like that and they’re oblivious to it all.

  71. Tiffany @ Snapshots of Life says:

    I am absolutely amazed at parents sometimes! It is so sad to see what they are doing to their children. They end up turning into people like the ones who made the plane late that one time and were wanting all of the alcohol and making a scene. I don’t know how you handle situations like that all of the time!

  72. Nina says:

    I would have had a fit so I admire your restraint. Kids get away with way to much these days and do not show any respect. I would be devistated if my child acted that way to anyone.

  73. Rebecca C says:

    You have been awarded.

    http://mommyhoodisthankless.blogspot.com/2008/11/i-have-been-tagged-awarded-etc.html

    That kid is surely going to be a great member of society. :/

  74. HeatherY says:

    And we wonder where personal accountability went! That’s just totally unacceptable!

  75. marybeth i says:

    If that was my kid he would have his DS taken away and be on his hands and knees picking up trash. Unacceptable and even more unacceptable is the mother’s lack of response. That kid is going to have a rude awakening as an adult and there will be no one there to protect and coddle him.

  76. Eryn says:

    prepare youself, that same little boy is going to grow up into the men that think it’s okay to grab your butt, too.

    At our library days, there are two small boys that are just plain mean and rude. I can’t stand to see how their mother lets them get away with murder, and apologizes to them when she actually (sorta) puts her foot down. Then one day I realized that they’re learning it from somewhere….now I am honestly worried about the life this woman has at home. I would place even money on the dad being a real piece of work.

    Good for you standing up for yourself. Hopefully responses from strangers will help this boy figure out how to act as an adult, his parents sure aren’t going to do it.

  77. michelle2 says:

    wow, that is sooo rude! i wonder what the passengers think of the kid’s behaviour. maybe most of them didn’t like what they hear from that kid. you did the right thing and yeah, wish you won’t see them again next time. :)

  78. Deb - Mom of 3 Girls says:

    Wow. Well it’s (painfully) obvious why he’s so rude, if his parents are letting him get away with that kind of behavior. But you are so right – just what are they teaching him? Just how to become a rude adult who’s demeaning to others. How horrible.

  79. popsgurl44 says:

    I cannot believe how people these days assume it’s ok for children to be so disrespectful. It’s sad really.. I enjoy reading your blogs and this was sad…I think you dealt with it accordingly ..I would have probably dumped the soda and the trash on the kid if it was me !

  80. Mozi Esme's Mommy says:

    Unbelievable… Though sometimes I wonder if the way we are treating our 19-mo-old will result in the same thing – when does she stop being a baby and become a respectful human being… Gotta do some reading up on discipline :)

  81. Andrea McMann says:

    OMG is right! The reactions of those parents completely explain why that boy turned out to be such a brat! My son has a kid in his class who is the same way, except probably younger. His mom lets him do anything he wants, including drinking Pepsi for breakfast! No wonder he bounces off the walls all day!

  82. jennifer says:

    Wow, I have no words. How rude. Good for you for at least making a point to them, although obviously it was for naught.

  83. valmg says:

    I think you handled it perfectly. This is another example of irresponsible parents not doing their job and raising bratty children.

  84. Melissa Markham says:

    Unfortunately I can believe this. It seems like more and more children are running the households. I find myself caught in dilemmas (not as bad as this), but my daughter throwing a fit because she doesn’t like something or wants something she can’t have. With the climate the way it is these days about people disciplining their children, it’s almost scary to confront them because someone may end up claiming you are being abusive.

  85. Stephanie says:

    I think you handled that situation quite well. Good for you for standing your ground in a professional way.

  86. Karen MEG says:

    What a brat!!!! And that his mother witnessed that and just picked up after him, how appalling. I would have been upset if my 3 year old had done that (and she never would) … let alone a TEN year old? Ugh.

    Bravo for how you handled that!

  87. Babalau says:

    I am STUPID!!!!!!!
    because i f******* my brother!!!=))
    byeeeee!!…….

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