The Rules of Parenting
October 24, 2008 by Kailani
Filed under books, family topics, giveaways, random thoughts, reviews
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Do you ever wish there were a set rules on how to be a good parent? Well, The Rules of Parenting: A Personal Code for Raising Happy, Confident Children by Richard Templar.
From Amazon.com: “There are lots of wrong ways to bring up your kids, but there are lots of right ones, too. There’s no list of instructions you have to follow to the letter if you don’t want your child to end up a loser. The Rules of Parenting presents the principles to follow which you can adapt to suit you and your children. Beginning with the first rule “Relax” and continuing through 100 rules, this book presents a guide to everything a parent needs to know from toddling, school, boyfriends or girlfriends, through driving lessons and college. The book begins with a section that covers the most important rules, The Rules for Staying Sane. The rest of the sections cover the some of the big questions of parenting, including the Attitude Rules, the Discipline Rules, the Sibling Rules, the School Rules, the Teenage Rules, the Crisis Rules, all the way up to the Grown-up Rules. “
I had the opportunity to review this book and although I didn’t agree with everything in it, I found it to be entertaining and a great read. There were a lot of helpful advice that really made me sit down and think about the way I’m raising my girls.
I especially liked rule #1: Relax.
“Really good parents expect their children to be noisy, messy, bouncy, squabbly, whiny, and covered in mud. They take it all in stride. They know they’ve got 18 years to turn these small creatures into respectable grown-ups, and they pace themselves. No rush to get them acting like adults – they’ll get there in good time.”
So true. And something I definitely need to work on. I need to try to remember that my girls are just kids and kids make noise and messes. I need to remember to let them just be kids sometimes. 
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Purchase your copy of The Rules of Parenting from Amazon.com today for $11.55.
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I have 10 copies of The Rules of Parenting to give away to ten lucky winners. To enter:
- Just mention in comments before midnight, Nov 1st one important rule in your family. That’s it!
- A random winner will be selected and notified on Nov 2nd.
- The winner will then have 3 days to claim their prize.
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This giveaway is open to US addresses. Good luck!
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I think it is important for my son to go to bed on time.
That hitting is never allowed!
Connected to the Feed as well!
No screaming in the house.
I’m a subscriber too.
Your button is in my sidebar.
always be honest
Number 1 rule: Family is more important than friends.
Never tell anyone to shut up, everyone’s has a right to say what is on their mind.
don’t expect the kids to be honest if you are not..lead by example- show them what is right and lead by example..
subscriber
Designate at least one to two nights a week that everyone will be at the same meal at the same time at home.
To treat others as you would like to be treated.
One of the biggest rules in our house is to be involved in each other’s lives, especially with kids in school.
I’m also a subscriber.
Always eat dinner together as a family.
To be kind to everyone you meet and to tell the truth.
One of the most important rules are to listen to what they have to say and explain why it’s still no. We want them to feel heard. Giving them 2 choices w/the consiquence.
We actually have a printed list of the ‘Lietz Family Rules’ in our front hall, and the first rule is ‘Be Kind’. There are many problems that can be fixed with just some simple kindness, and for us, kindness starts with how we treat each other!
“Act like a grown-up”. This rule applies to my husband and myself, not our children. My husband and I are naturally immature, and lazy people, and we tend to let things slide too much and to be too permissive. This rule reminds us that someone in our household had better darn well act like an adult, or our kids will suffer in the end.
Alicia Webster
5webs@comcast.net
A rule that I think is important is to always tell our kids and now grandkids how special and unique they are. That being an individual is more important than following the crowd.
Treat each other the way you want to be treated! And I subscribe to you as well. Thanks!
The rule right now is “no hitting” since my lil one is starting his terrible 2’s!
We are subscribers at
phillipsonlygirl at gmail dot com
Your on my blog sidebar!
Always speak in a nice voice
Honesty is the best policy
jceko77@yahoo.com
I’m a subscriber
jceko77@yahoo.com
I am about whatever makes life easier… I will say, however, you have to just go with the flow ’cause it seems like a book just doesn’t cut it sometimes… And, what did the old schoolers do (our parents) when raising children? LOL!
Oh, and I would say to always be truthful.
Looksa like a good read. In our house we always make sure to say we’re sorry and then give hugs!:)
What parent couldn’t use a little advise every now and then?!?
m_huston(at)hotmail(dot)com
I’m a subscriber, too.
Must be involved in some type of after school activity.
I’m subscribed.
stand by your family first no one else is going to
An important rule for us, especially having little ones, is speaking with kindness and doing things with a happy heart!
Trust in God
Set allowances and teach kids to work for their money!
No drinking alcohol before noon.
Because I said so
gkstratos@yahoo.com
Subscriber
gkstratos@yahoo.com
family comes first
For my husband and I, it to be honest. We have a new son to start our family and thus we are coming up with rules. This would be a great starting point for us! I am also a subscriber
We eat meals together
To treat others as you want to be treated.
Be nice to each other – treat your brother/sister like you want them to treat you.
I am a subscriber.
Parents have the final say.
work for what you want
in our family, we try not to seem aggravated when we are, and it’s quite difficult at times with toddlers!
subscribed
A rule in our house is family dinner every night!
I’m a subscriber. =)
Count to ten before speaking if you are angry.
Hello, I would really appreciate winning this parenting book! Manners is an important rule in our home! Please enter me in your drawing. Many thanks, Cindi
I too love rule 1!!!!!!
I need more relaxation inmy life!
To show each other as much love as we can and as they grow older they will return this love and more.
I can’t stand bickering, so our house rule is to take arguments outside.
I’m subscribed!
#1 rule for else is to show respect for others
no swearing
The family must sit at the table and eat dinner together each night. Occasionally this rule is waived, depending on what is going on.
We don’t hit one another.
I subscribed to your feed, thanks.
We have rules in our house like “no hitting Mommy” and “no biting Mommy”. Maybe one day we’ll have to expand the rule to no biting or hitting anyone.
Always call your elders yes sir and no sir!
The Golden Rule applies at out house. It cover just about everything.
Would love it!
One important rule in our house is that it’s okay to get angry. It’s a weird one, but we feel that it’s the most important. We’re all just human, and in a way getting into fights and stuff just goes to show that we’re passionate. So it’s okay if we get angry and fight sometimes…we just get over it and make up. It’s a more realistic rule than something like “NO FIGHTING”.
I have also blogged about your giveaway – http://mypreciouspennies.blogspot.com/2008/10/giveaways-galore-exciting-announcement.html
Your button is on my blog in the left sidebar under “sites that I love”
I am also a subscriber to your feed via RSS Bandit!
I think respecting your elders is very important!
Respect each other!
don’t move from the dining table when eating dinner.
herry123_us@live.com
No biting! Sometimes even that one is hard to enforce!
Our main rule is treat each other the way you would want to be treated. That tends to fall under the realm of no violence and no name calling.
I have your button on my blog: Here
I am a subscriber!
mommyhoodisthankless{AT}gmail.com
legacyofbrutalitysa{AT}gmail.com
I blogged about this giveaway: Here
I think that children need love and discipline.
What’s for dinner is what’s for dinner. Take it or leave it, but don’t tell me you’re hungry later! Terrific giveaway. Thanks.
Our main rule is that when it comes to everything you have to at least ‘try’. It doesn’t matter if you fail, you have to try anyway. Great giveaway!!!
One rule we have is to take your dirty dishes to the sink/dishwasher after you are done eating. Simple but very helpful.
I also subscribe. Thanks!
Respect for all.
everybody has a voice
We have a one year old and haven’t made any firm rules yet…but RESPECT is a big one for hubby and me that we’ll pass on to the little guy. Would love this book-thanks!
never go to bed angry is a very important rule in our home
Speak kindly.
Trust in God.
Be polite and honest.
We eat dinner every night together as a family to touch base with everyone
I have toddlers so the number one is no hitting or biting.
Never go to bed angry.
don’t use your hands to do the talking! no violence allowed!
i’m always looking for good parenting books since i’m involved in a parents ministry for my church. thanks for the opportunity to win!
Well our first is still in utero but a rule we have for the cats is no fighting.
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My family motto is “Treat others as you want to be treated” which means be polite and nice to each other (easier said then done though!)
Our little girl is only 1 so we don’t have too many rules for her. A rule I have for myself is to remain patient and remember that she will grow up way too fast.
always act out of love first!
mrsdouglas5@yahoo.com
We practice attatchment parenting therefore there is no spanking, just calm discussions (usually, sometimes it doesn’t work!)
Im also a subscriber!
One rule we have is that no one says they “hate” anyone else.
wow…most of our rules have been mentioned already! We are big on always tell the truth even if it causes pain – truthful pain is easier to deal with than deceitful pain.
I would love to read this. One thing we’re trying to teach our kids is that it’s okay to be frustrated, upset, angry, whatever…it’s okay to feel it but to be responsible and respectful in their reactions.
Thanks for the giveaway. Heather
poncey76 at hotmail dot com.
Say “no” as infrequently as reasonably possible. So when it is necessary, your child will know it.
communicate with each other, don’t keep secrets, etc
would love to read this, would it be too obvious if i passed it off to some friends
Be respectful!
One of the most important rules in our house is to ‘treat each other nicely’
The number one rule in our house is respect; yourself and others.
Thanks for hosting this giveaway, please be sure to check mine out, as well!
The lines of communication are always open, thank you.
i subscribe.
Use words to communicate!
no hitting! thanks!
This isn’t the most important, but it’s handy and it’s the first that came to mind: Finish everything on your plate before you have seconds of anything.
One important rule in our family is take off your shoes before you come upstairs. It’s so easy, even my 2 year old understands it! And it helps save the carpet!
I’d love to read this!
We don’t leave the house without hugs and kisses. I figure this will last until my son gets old enough that he thinks it’s uncool for mama to hug and kiss him! LOL Thanks for the giveaway!
One rule is actually for my husband and I. To always present a united front and not let the kids think they can play one of us against the other. We haven’t really had to use it that much since our oldest is only 4 but I can tell we’re gonna need it soon!
This book looks great! Thanks!
everyone must eat at the dinner table together! Awesome Giveaway. Thank you for the chance to win
Think about how your actions affect others and act in a non-hurtful way.
no TV in the car that is a time to share how life is going and enjoy time with your family!
Thanks for this Chance HOPE I WIN!!
; )
Our number 1 rules is to never leave without saying I love you!
Some things are just not negotiable.
enter me please
One important rule in our house is to treat others how you want to be treated (brothers, sisters, mom, dad, and everyone else!)
It’s simple: Be nice! Thanks for the giveaway!
An important rule in our house is “fight” fair. No accusatory or passive aggressive language. Be willing to talk things out.
We have various rules, but they all seem to boil down to being kind to others. Sounds like a good book! Thanks for the chance to win!
No hitting or biting! Thanks for a great giveaway!
jjdragonfly [at] gmail [dot] com
always tell the truth!
subscriber
One important rule would be Wipe your feet real good before coming in the front door
Our Rule: Rules must be obeyed, but relationship always trumps rules.
Clean up after yourself
subscriber!
Your button is on my blog
Always tell the truth!!!
Always say please and thank you. Make it a habit to tell your family you love them on a daily basis. Have your kids spend as much time as possible with their grandparents-these memories will last them a lifetime!
daytoncat1(at)yahoo(dot)com
We use our words.
Always say I love you before you go to sleep, and mean it.
One important rule is to tell the truth.
Respect your parents.
Where there’s a will there’s a way
leading by example! I would love to win! Thanks! =)
Don’t talk back! See….I probably need to win this…
Family is more important than friends. Thanks!!
I want my daughter to know that your only as good as your word and when it comes to friendships its better to have quality than quantity.
No television while eating dinner!
Use your words – not your hands!
Show Respect to others.
No running out in the street!
Sweet niblets!
SAY I LOVE YOU DAILY
Listen and love!
Family comes first!
consider other people’s feelings and treat them the way u would want to be treated.
We live by leading by example, and try and find solutions to problems instead of giving up. Thanks!
Be kind to others. Even if they are unkind to you. It’s something my parents instilled into me and I want to do the same with my daughter.
To treat others as you want to be treated.
My most valuable lesson in life was taught to me by my mother and I have passed it along: do unto others as you would have them do unto you! Thank you for the opportunity to win!
The biggest rule in our house is No shoes on the couch. And they need to use sir and maam
Say your prayers before bed.
Say your prayers before bed.
I am a subscriber
I put your button on my blog.
The one important rule in my family is to work hard.
I subscribed to your feed.
Vanessa
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Sarah
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My Precious Pennies
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ab
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Bedtime is bedtime. Or in my house, ‘it’s sleep time, not party time’!
Interesting article thanks!