[...] Check it out! While looking through the blogosphere we stumbled on an interesting post today.Here’s a quick excerpt A couple of weeks ago, I was sitting in the back row at Girlie Girl’s Taiko class blogging my little heart out when I noticed a commotion going on in class. Apparently, one of the girls wet her pants and it was now running over the newly polished hard wood floor. The strange thing was that no one, except the other kids, seemed to care. Not the Sensei (teacher), not the other parents, and not her Mom. This poor little girl looked back at her Mom and her 1 year old brother and all the Mom did w [...]

Definitely rude. Of her. How difficult would it have been to just say, “Thank you”? (I would have been falling all over myself thanking you, personally!)

And even more rude that nobody else bothered to even offer to help. That drives me completely batty.

Then again, these are the same people that won’t even say thank you when someone holds a door for them, or won’t hold a door for someone else. It’s a sad commentary on where the world is going.

Rest assured, you did the right, and NICE, thing. (But it would honestly bug me too…)

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Rude is not even begin to describe that. She was inconsiderate of her daughter and the rest of the class.

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Oh I pity her and mostly, I pity her children. What will become of them having a mom like that around.

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There are so many situations that are intended only to steal your joy. Does that make sense?
Don’t let her unhappiness infect your soul.

(You bet there is a problem with courtesy and caring…. but slapping her up the side of the head might have made her pee, too. Then you would have had to clean it up. Ick!)

It sure does seem like people are getting ruder all the time.

I think what you did was wonderful.

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I admire your kindness for helping the mom in such a situation. It’s so sad that she lacked the courtesy to show gratitude. A simple thank you would have been enough. I would have felt the same way as you, if my act of kindness was dismissed just like that, as if nothing happened.

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I agree 100% but I am learning as you know from working in the public that there are a lot of people who just lack good social skills.

I have misinterpreted some of them for being rude and snobby while they just don’t really know to interact with others. I can only guess were they deprived of social interaction growing up, did something happen to them in a social setting….what?

But, with a few of them we (my family) has plugged away and it has paid off. I only did so because some of these are people we see EVERY weekend at horse shows!!!

Good Luck!

I AGREE 100% I don’t understand how she could possible be so rude! I mean at least smile at you or something. And her poor kids who are going to grow up thinking that you don’t need to have manors. Yeah I agree with you! Well I will thank you for her! “Thank you for holding the baby so she could clean up her daughter, that was very sweet”

Unfortunately, the being rude and not thanking you is becoming the norm these days I used to cringe when my mother would blurt “your welcome” to people who did not thank her when she would hold the door for them when out. Sad thing is now I find myself doing the same thing.

I think the worst part of your story is nobody helping that poor little girl. Thank goodness you were there to think about her and get mom to move.

Kudos to you for helping and reminding people of good manners.

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Ya know, I just don’t get it. I don’t know if there’s something “wrong” with people like that or what. But there are sure a lot of them around.

It was an embarrassing situation and everybody felt it, that it bacame really awkward to the point that ONLY you have reacted appropriately! The world needs more people like you!

I think the mother was embarrassed at herself for not acting rightfully and promptly to her daughter’s problem. She is probably in denial that it happened and just trying to forget it! But this is not an excuse not to thank you!

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regardless of how embarrassed the mom may have been, she was just plain rude!

I agree. I’m absolutely stunned to hear stories like this. It’s so unbelievable that some people never say thank you. And so wrong.

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I definitely think that was very rude of her! A thank you isn’t too much to ask for, no matter how embarrassed she was. I do wonder though if she ignored you later on because she was still embarrassed by what happened? Even so, she still needed to at least acknowledge the fact that you made an effort to help her out when nobody else did. And it’s not like she was with people who wouldn’t understand - you’re all moms too!

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I just recently blogged about the lack of common courtesy in the world now a days!
You did the right thing! You know that. That woman is just too rude to realize it!

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Sometimes you just wanna go up to the person and say “I believe the word you are searching for is Thanks!” Or even better “What do we say when someone does something nice for us?”

*eyeroll!*

Well know that even though this mother didn’t think to express her gratitude (maybe she was too embarrased?) that others appreciate you very much!

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I had a similar problem with a woman at my daughter’s dance class! I constantly attempted to smile at her or talk to her and she always ignored me. Our daughters were the same age and attended the same school (almost an hour away from the dance school), I thought they could be friends…apparently not! Well, coincidences happen Now, i baby sit her neices and our daughter’s got to be friends on their own!!

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Oh, that is frustrating! Unfortunately people will always fail us- there is no other explanation for it. You did the right thing, and hopefully someday that person will come around!!

Steph

Wow! Sometimes I just don’t get people. At the same time who knows what is going on in that girls life. She could be experiencing something completely horrible, and is dead to the world. Atleast that is what I try to tell myself when a passenger on the plane treats me like trash! Good thing you had the decency to try to help her.

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Ugh. I detest a lack of manners. Simple good manners. Where are they these days?

I had an incident of a CHILD at a church social function this weekend TELL ME that I needed to help him do something. When I refused because was demanding my help instead of asking for it, he then told me I needed to be nicer, and his sister told me off for having an attitude. I then proceeded to rip them new ones (in front of their clueless parents) for lack of manners and respect for adults.

Gads! I’m so sick of people not having simple, basic manners!

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Wow, it makes you wonder what kind of a home her children are growing up in. Good manners are so important in life, especially in today’s society where so much is taken for granted. I’m so very lucky to be married to a man who believes in chivalry. He is my gallant knight in shining armor.
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These kinds of things really make me sad. I wish I could understand it but I don’t. So I don’t have any great words of wisdom, just those of sympathy having experienced similar situations myself. I know we’re all responsible for ourselves and our decisions, but I too wonder what happens in the early stages of a person’s life to get them on the road to developing such apathetic and uncaring behaviors.

Hugs,
Holly

Really, the first clue of what to come was when the mom just ignored her daughter’s situation. When she finally was forced to extract her head from her behind, she was socially inept. I think the disregard for her own daughter’s sensibilities speaks volumes.
Makes me worry what that kid’s home life is like.

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First of all, I’m sorry this happened to you. It could be that she is just a rude person, like everyone has been commenting.

But, what I always tell my girls is: we don’t know what’s going on in other people’s lives to make them behave the way that they do.

It could be she is going through a difficult time right now and nobody realizes it. I can imagine someone behaving the way that you describe if they are facing severe personal problems (divorce, illness or death of a family member, financial problems, etc.).

Anyway, I’m sorry that you experienced this.

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I totally agree that this woman’s manners and are totally lacking!!! There is no excuse for not using common courtesies…and I definitely want my daughter being able to see that I am kind & considerate & courteous and I want her to use those same manners herself!!! It’s terrible that woman acted that way.

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I just can’t get over that poor little girl!

She was definitely rude to not say thank you… she had plenty of time to get over the shock by the time she got back!

Definitely rude. Whether or not she’s exceptionally shy or depressed with her lfe or WHATever, we all know that the common courtesy is to say thank you when someone helps, and hello when someone says hi.

Except, maybe you smell bad? Hmmm… Did you shower that day??

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Hmmm people can be very odd sometimes. I can only imagine, but I suspect she’s maybe too embarrassed - at least I hope that’s what it is.
Best wishes

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Okay, is the rude woman’s name Kari? Because if so, that woman continously and consistently ignores me, too.

She has three children: her oldest and second are the same ages as my boys. They go to the same schools, they have the same classes, they are even in the same band functions together. I have always smiled at her, always. I even went up to her and introduced myself because heck, I see this woman more than my own mother. And she was pleasant enough when I introduced myself, stiff, but pleasant.

But then, after that episode? She completely ignores me. I’ve tried waving at her, nothing. So you know? Forget her. I’m done. But I can’t help but wonder WHY is she like that?? Is she just truly a snob?

So I know EXACTLY how you feel, Kailani. I just don’t get people like that. Truly. I’m not a big people person but for pete’s sake, I’m at least cordial and friendly when the situation presents itself.

You did the right thing helping her out. What a pity her children have to see that behavior.

This story makes me saddest of all for her children. When her daughter needed her — to clean her up, to reassure her, to guide her through the accident — she was nonresponsive.

You, at least, get to go back to your nice family. Those kids are stuck for a long time.
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I see this, deal with this all the time. I think it’s the way younger/newer mom’s act. I think it ’s the generation.

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I agree. However, she may suffer from an anxiety problem and be simply terrified to even speak. I have a moderate anxiety problem myself and I have been in similar situations.

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That’s ridiculous! I think the ignoring the next time you saw her is the oddest - the forgotten (but much needed) thank you we can write off to embarassment or being flustered. But to not acknowledge you the next time around is just plain rude! Hopefully she’s teaching her children better manners…

I think it is “rude season”…too bad that coincides with the holidays. I would have definitely said thank you over and over and over again!! I agree…passing that kind of trait/attitude/habit to your children is bad. I also agree with KarinGal, not coming to her daughter’s rescue when she needed her, I can only imagine how her daughter felt at that moment. I guess it is a good lesson of what NOT to do with our children!

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i definitely agree with you.
move on.
she is either painfully shy or
socially backward.

or just plain rude.
i agree with the others, her poor children.

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That was rude and unfortunately seems to be becoming the norm.
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I work in a grocery store, and people are so rude nowadays! I completely agree that she was unnecessarily rude. And poeple wonder why kids are growing up with no respect for eachother.

Having 4 small children I am used to them making a mess and being extremely embarrassed. That is no excuse. Right now I have a spitting up 5 month old. The first thing I do, usually, is apologize profusely to whom ever the floor, counter, clothing (if someone is holding her), etc belonged to. Then I thank anyone and everyone who tried to help me clean up. That is what you do. I can guarantee that it left an impression upon that little girl of grace and mercy. While her mom said nothing, you can’t believe the girl who had the accident was left unaffected by it all (both the accident, being ignored, and your kind act).

Unfortunately, I could totally see myself in that mother’s shoes - being so embarrassed by the behavior of my child that I was unable to adequately respond to the situation.

If it were me, the fact that you felt you had to step in to the situation meant that I had failed, and that you were judging my lack of action (whether you really were or not).

I do hope that I would not have been too flustered to thank you even though I would probably resent your interference and my implied incompetence. But the next time I saw you, I might greet you sheepishly, if at all.

Now I realize that’s not at all the reaction you’d be expecting, but I chalk it up to a personal social awkwardness and two other things - the current extreme societal judgement of parents especially by other parents, and the go-it-alone requirements of our society that seem to have gotten even worse in the last decade or so.

Kailani, I am sorry this woman was definetly not at all grateful for your help. And yes, I agree she was being quite rude. It makes one wonder if this is a pattern and maybe she wasn’t taught good manners herself, or just embarrassed, but a simple Thankyou, and a smile, I’ve found work magic. As much as I dislike bad manners, and selfish people, I’ve learned to just go on, and I also feel sorry for her children. Just know you did a wonderful deed , and no good deed should go unrewarded. Karma will come back to you with something wonderful!!

What a great opportunity for you to be a teacher. Every time you see her, speak to her, smile, try to think of something to ask her that will require more than a yes or no answer. Your kindness may very well be the only kindness in her life.

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I understand how you feel. I’m not one who always expects everyone to thank me for everything, but she could have at least made some kind of nice gesture to you. Maybe she does have a problem, like she’s extremely shy or she just had a death in her family. Let’s hope it’s just something like that and not just someone being rude. Love your layout by the way!

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It’s really sad how common it is, now. It’s as if people have forgotten their manners, or were never taught any. It peeves me even when people don’t acknowledge when you hold a door for them. I’ve actually had baby & shopping bags in hand, but saw someone coming behind me & held the door for them without getting a thank you or nod of the head or anything from them. Or when you see that person in traffic wanting to get over, so you kindly wait to let them in and they just keep driving without so much as the little thankyou wave; like it was their right.. I can’t imagine not having common courtesy when someone does me a favor (no matter how big or how small), so I can totally see why it upset you. It’s bad enough from strangers, but someone you see every week?! Terrible.

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