Short, Fat, & Big-Headed

February 8, 2007 by Kailani  
Filed under my family


That’s the way our pediatrician described Baby Bug at her 1 year well-baby check-up today.

Should I have been insulted or amused? I think I was a little of both.

Apparently her weight is in the 80%, height in the 10% and head size in the 95%. So, I guess I can see where the doctor is coming from. But couldn’t she have been a little more tactful?

I’ve always thought she was a really cute baby, healthy, but cute. Everyone always says how adorable she is but then again, it’s not like someone will say, “Hey, your kid looks out of proportion!”.

Is she a baby only a Mother could love?

Oh well, it doesn’t matter. She’s my Baby Bug and I love her no matter what she looks like. However, just to be on the safe side, I better start pushing the education since she probably won’t get by on her looks alone! Thank goodness she has a great personality! LOL!

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40 Responses to “Short, Fat, & Big-Headed”
  1. meredith says:

    And to that I would have said “when you went to med school, did they take out that filter in your brain .. you know the one… the one you should have used just now?”

    I think that was a very inappropriate comment to make. She might have felt that she was being funny… but hey, that’s your kid!!!

    and she ISN’T out of proportion. She is VERY beautiful. I have always loved looking at the girls pics here.

    Bah! Your ped needs a filter.

  2. Heather L. says:

    I can’t believe she said that!! I swear, Doctors have no bedside manner anymore. They really do have a God complex and think it doesn’t matter what they do or say. That was very offensive! The whole point to being little is going through those stages with guidance from our parents. I think your girls are so sweet and cute. Don’t let someone’s rude attempt at being light-hearted ruin that. I am thankful that Baby Bug is too young to remember that. I’d like to smack that woman!

    Can you imagine the therapy Baby Bug would need if she understood what was going on?

  3. Zeus says:

    I think that was wrong of him to say that; however, I don’t know the type of relationship you have with your pediatrician. If he had said that to me about one of my kids, I think I might have accidentally scratched him on the way out.

  4. yoshi says:

    I know too many doctors and I almost never listen to them. This is definitely a case of when to not listen to them.

    But omg, how can anyone not say she’s adorable? what beautiful kids! don’t listen to your pediatrician!

  5. mert says:

    Oh my goodness, sounds like someone needs a refresher course in “bedside manner”. I would have been miffed and annoyed to!

    Baby bug is one of the cutest little things I have ever seen, and I am not just saying that because I’m your friend. I think I WAS saying that before I was your friend, LOL!

  6. amy says:

    Wow, I do not think that was very nice at all! I think both of your girls are beautiful and I think Baby Bug has continued to get cuter and now that she walks she will be fine. Most babies have some extra “cubbies” while they learn to walk. She is adorable and her head…why are we concerned with it being 95%? Some doctors just don’t have manners!

  7. Carey says:

    I think that was rather rude of the Dr. Your daughter is beautiful…Don’t forget shes a growing kid…who knows, she may grow up to be Miss America.

  8. Desert Songbird says:

    Baby Bug just needs to “grow into” her body. My kids seemed out of proportion when they were infants and toddlers too. One was long and skinny with a big head, and the other one was short and barrel-chested with a big head. They now both have “evened out” and are still adorable, cute, beautiful, etc. The best thing is the big head thing (which you and I talked about before). Remember – that’s a good thing!

  9. Ma says:

    I think it’s an oriental thing. Baby K and Baby Z was that way too. And so was the children I used to babysit. the parents owns BarBQ Kai in Waianae. They had big heads too. Some oriental children are that way and it’s normal. No worries, Sista. She’s normal. And probably real akamai too. Like my grandkids. Kolohe, but really akamai. Better than average. :)

  10. Desert Songbird says:

    Oh, and, yes of course, Baby Bug is adorable! You know it, we know it, and to heck with the pediatrician!

  11. Maribeth says:

    And people think that “House” is a total fabrication of how tactless doctor’s are.
    Baby Bug is so adorable! And my daughter had a VERY big head too. And guess what? She is now doing clinical research for Oncology. And she is a clinician that all the doctors want to work with because she is so smart!
    And she is still adorable and well, not as tall as me, but so what?

  12. MamaDuck says:

    That’s a terrible thing to say!! I think she is super cute. My little guy has a big head too – after getting him out of me, it hasn’t been an issue since ;) . When they are little, they go up and down, I don’t know many healthy toddlers that are that skinny, they’re supposed to have baby chub ;) .

  13. Meg says:

    I think she’s adorable! I might have been a little offended by the doctor’s remarks, but she probably just meant it to be funny.

  14. tiggerprr says:

    I would hope that the doc was trying to be funny rather than mean. But I might have whacked her one if she said that about my baby! Your kiddos are so beautiful, I wouldn’t even worry about what that person said!

  15. Kukka-Maria says:

    I don’t want to be there when Baby Bug finds this post at the vulnerable and self-doubting age of 14! :)

  16. katkat says:

    She is sweet as can be!

  17. Renee says:

    We come from a family of large heads here too. Your doc needs an attitude adjustment.

  18. Jill says:

    Sounds like your pediatrician could use some tact lessons. The Boy is the opposite in terms of proportions — 90% for height, 50% for weight. But his head has been off the charts since he was born. I lovingly call him my big-headed boy!

  19. Stacy says:

    Well, the doc needs a lesson in bedside manners, or whatever it’s called. I think she’s beautiful and as long as she’s healthy, that’s all that really matters. But hey, you know, I think I’ve heard that a larger head as a young child just means she is going to be uber-brilliant, sort of a genius thing. I mean, a bigger head holds a bigger brain, right?! I bet she’s sweet, funny and SMART, besides being just beautiful :)

  20. Sparky Duck says:

    sounds like just great bedside manner. And baby bug is pretty cute. I grew into my head eventually

  21. SeaBird says:

    Hello! We’re at the other end of the spectrum on weight… one of my one-year-olds has been in the 3rd percentile for weight since conception, but his head and height keep creeping up. So he must be a toothpick with a pumpkinhead, right? :) )


  22. Southern Girl says:

    Somebody needs to give that doctor some glasses! Anybody can see that Baby Bug is beautiful and adorable. Of course she’s short — she’s one year old! ;)

  23. Christine says:

    She’s the cutest ‘lil Baby Bug I’ve ever seen. My SIL’s doctor told her something horrible about my neice that she was undernourished and small. OK, so she’s thin and petite. I just went to buy her 2Ts for her 2nd Birthday, and my SIL says she wears 3Ts now.
    She’s not thin and petite anymore.

  24. Pamela says:

    doctor of few words.
    You do know, don’t you, that it is well known that larger headed people tend to be brilliant – or even geniuses?

  25. NtycnBoricua says:

    Awww – no way! Your baby bug is adorable. Watch, now she’ll go through a major growth spurt and before you know it she’ll be taller than you.

    My baby girl is the opposite – 95% for both height & weight and about 50% for head. She’s almost 14 months old and looks about as tall as some 2 year olds.

  26. Liz (Looney Mom) says:

    Uhmm… for a sec there I thought you wrote a post about me. That would be silly. Your baby bug is beautiful. I know from the ONE glimpse I caught of you in a pic recently, she’ll be one beautiful mama someday. Don’t worry.

  27. sugarmama says:

    She’s beautiful! Your pediatrician however is an ugly person. How can he/she be so tactless!

  28. Melli says:

    LOL! Young MOM’s!!! Ya take EVERYTHING to heart! She is an ADORABLE baby — and I’m sure she’ll be a knock-out teenager — one SURELY worthy of locking in a closet to keep away from the boys! And what do PEDIATRICIANS know anyway??? They’re too busy looking up butts and down throats to know what’s cute!

  29. Lissete says:

    She is just too cute! Just want to grab those cheeks! Poor baby probably gets that alot, I know my girls cheeks were always gettin pinched! :)

  30. Waya says:

    OMG! I can’t believe she said that! How tactless!! So they say “doctors don’t have a personality” and they are so right!

    She’s adorable!! And there’s nothing big about her head!!

    Love your new design Kailani!

    Thank you, it’s only temporary though.

  31. BeachMama says:

    She is cute and adorable. Some people just don’t have the right tact when they say things, Doctors I find are especially bad.

  32. Holly Schwendiman says:

    Ah a little tact can go a long way can’t it? She’s absolutely adorable and in a few more months the entire playing field will be leveled anyway. ;o)

    Holly’s Corner

  33. JHS says:

    Honestly? I would get a new doctor. That person has no bedside manner. A comment like that is absolutely uncalled-for. No, Baby Bug is not an adult and she didn’t comprehend what the dr. said, but as she grows up, if that dr. continues treating her, she could do real harm to your daughter.

    Have you read “The Four Agreements”? If not, I urge you to do so. You can read a post about the power of words at
    xhref=” entitled “Sticks and Stones.”

    As an attorney, I am very mindful of words, their use, and their power. Occupational hazard, I guess. I am guilty of being careless with mine far too often, but I try very hard to think before sticking my size 8.5 foot into my mouth. And I am very aware of things that have been said to me over the years by people who didn’t think . . . and how they stuck with me and impacted me many years later.

    Case in point: I started becoming chubby after having my tonsils out. I am convinced that either the surgery did something to my metabolism or it was the diet they gave me at the time, consisting virtually entirely of sweets like ice cream, pudding, etc. I got a taste of them and wanted more, perhaps? Anyway . . . my mother used to try to bribe me by saying she would buy me things if I lost weight. Wrong. And worse, she used to say, “You’d be so pretty if you lost weight.” Doubly wrong. I grew up believe that I was ugly. It wasn’t until I was in my late 20’s that I learned to accept that, while no Miss America candidate, I was certainly not a homely person. My face is acceptable. :-)

    Sorry this is long, but that comment just pushed my buttons! :-)

    Thanks to my Mom, I grew up thinking I had funny looking ears. I’m very self conscious about it till this day. Kind of a bummer that my job requires my hair to be up. My MIL is also always saying that Girlie Girl needs to get surgery done on her eyes since she has single eye lids. MIL thinks being pretty is more important than being smart. You can bet I put her in her place! 

  34. Karen Shanley says:

    My daughter had similar stats when she was a baby. Same tactless clone for her dr. I just looked at him and said, “Yep, that large head needs all that body fat right now to fuel all that brilliance she’s growing!”

    And I was right. She’s grown into her head. She is brilliant — and normal in weight (I believe because I never put an emphasis on it one way or the other) and she’s turned into a swan.

    I’m sure the same will be true for Baby Bug–in part because she’s got such a loving, wise, and wonderful advocate in her mom!

  35. Pass the Torch says:

    She’s gorgeous – I don’t care what proportions she has;)

  36. Lisa says:

    I think she is adorable. You might need a new doctor with a little better bed side manner!!

    here via the carnival of family life.

  37. Irene says:

    I am sure she will grow to be a beautiful, healthy , joyful child with you at your side and sensible, loving people around her. All babies need their time to grow to their full potential, so, silly as that doctor was and totally unprofessional, I’d say, give your little baby a hug and go out watch the sun and the birds and all the beauty around you. God does not hold a measuring tape, but loves and cares for all that is.
    Be happy,

  38. Jennifer says:

    I had a friend living next door several years ago, and I remember thinking, her baby girl has a very large head. It did look out of proportion. Your little girls head doesn’t look that way at all to me. And the big-headed baby that lived next door? She’s grown up to be an absolutely beautiful little girl. Her head no longer looks large to me. Oprah has mentioned her big head more than once. There are worse things. :-)

  39. Karen is Thrifty says:

    She looks cute to me! :)


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