Nothing ! because now I have my life AFTER kids and that is even better ! far better !! No worries anymore, no falling in love and other tiring stuff, lol !

My husband and I dated for 2 years and were married for 6 years before we had our first was born. The only thing I miss B.K. (before kids) is eating out without them. Hubs and I LOVED to eat out several times a week back in the day. Now those days are so next to never. I too wouldn’t trade my life with my kids for anything. I have known joy like I never knew before. I just feel so frazzled when we eat out as a family. I miss the luxury of enjoying my food at my own pace.

I have been a mommy for 20 days and look back at my “before life” with only one thing missing - sleep! I need a little more sleep; that’s all! I have been stepping for 23 years but those weekends were all about fun with Dad! Full-time Mommy with a little one takes more energy and sleep!

Like “thefarmerfiles” I was married for a little while before I had kids. Five years before we had kids, and I think that was the ideal amount of time where we were “ready” as a married couple to have kids (pretty well adjusted to marriage, etc) but not so settled that having kids totally threw us for a loop!

I think that I probably miss my sleep the most of all. Although I know that “this too shall pass”!!! I have an almost-3-year-old (b-day in November) and a 6-month-old. Last night I think I got probably 5 hours of sleep, and about the same the couple nights before as well. Not great for someone who usually doesn’t function on less than 8 hours! But I know that this is just a temporary stage, and that’s what I try to keep reminding myself!!!

Isn’t that the best feeling? When they come running at you like that? I also miss my sleep, from prekids. But I think I miss just being able to pick up & go, whenever. Now, I have to plan ahead, extra clothes, just in case, toys, cups, blankies, ect. But, like you, I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

I’m a mom of a 19 yr old and a 21 yr old young men. And I love cooking for them. What I miss now is my mom cooking for me.

I actually don’t remember much about life without kids. I had just turned twenty when I married and had four babies in the next five years. This weekend we had the grandbabies and I like you Kailnai, wouldn’t trade having the little hugs around my neck for anything.

The only thing that I miss about life before kids is being able to sleep and travel without packing so much for the kids. I honestly have not really slept well an entire night since I conceived my now 5 year old son. For some reason I never sleep well when pregnant and then the kids just keep waking up early no matter what.

I would never trade my boys for anything. I cherish this time because before I know it they will be big and grown and away from us. Of course WAY down the road I have grandchildren to look forward to

The hubster and I were just talking about this last night. The only thing we could think of was being able to spend all night at Denny’s drinking coffee and eating bagels. We were literally out until 5am all the time.
Honestly, life with Alex is much better.

Just the extra sleep I had.( and a little extra money) But everything else is 1000 times better!

of all the things i’ve lost with having a baby, i miss solitude the most.

I miss the sleeping in for sure, but it’s the quiet that I miss the most.

I don’t remember life before kids. It just wasn’t worth as much, so not worth remembering!
I was trying to think of my favorite high school memory for our reunion thingy, and I just don’t remember high school. I remember who my friends were, and dating, and the school, but activities and things like that just don’t pop up as any great time.
I love my life with kids now. These memories I treasure. That is why I blog. I want to remember them.

The only thing I miss from before kids? My thinner body!

Easy. Being naked whenever it was convenient. Like for doing housework.

I miss not having to coordinate every little detail just to go to the grocery story!

I liked my single and life before kids. I LOVE my life as a mom, although my kids are already legal adults now
Now my hubby & I have alot more freedom to go out and travel and stuff. But I miss being a mom to little ones.

Aw Kailani …. you are so right!
I would miss just the same. The walking through the door and being greeted with the utmost sincerity by someone that believes the sun rises and sets where I walk.
I wouldn’t exchange the mud for the latenight dates for the world.

Well sleeping in would be nice but I’d never trade motherhood for anything.

Oh that is the best - when they come and fling themselves at you when you get home. It’s one of the few things I miss about going to work every day.

Other than sleep, I think I probably miss just having some peace and quiet in which to think or sit down with a book or whatever else I want to do. But I wouldn’t trade my kids for anything.

I don’t think that anyone else has mentioned this… I miss the sex!!!
When we took a little vacation w/o DD to Vegas it was like “AH, this is what’s missing!” and then we got home and same old same old again. Sigh!

Well, as a mom of 3 kids, 10, 6 and 1, the thing I miss most is once in a while some time for myself to read a book or go to the store. I really can not imagine my life without them as they really are my life (and my husband of course!).

Actually not a thing…my life took a different turn than I had expected or personally planned BUT I do believe there is a reason. I honestly believe they have taught me more, and although I am not rich with money, I have love and alot of people search for that all thier lives. I really believe my life is alot better now than back then.

I’m only 21, and fortunately I do not have any children yet. But I honestly think my life if going to disappear once I get a career, so I think having children will be a treat in maybe 6-9 years. Do you guys think 30 is too old to be having children?

I miss the sleep. I find everything else fulfills my life in such a great way. I love spending time with my kids and always want more time. I just miss the sleeping in in the morning. The sun peaks at my house and the kids are up.

I’m amazed at how quickly time passes…I used to say sleep but now my kids are already at the age where I can sleep in again if I want. I’m not sure how that happened?

All I know is that when you look back mother’s will have anything but a handful of empty yesterdays with little to show for their time and efforts! Go MOMS!

Hugs,
Holly

The one thing I miss most is traveling without having to plan ahead. There were several times when I just said “let’s go to LA this weekend–the flights look good.”

Can’t do that anymore–I would have to plan ahead months in advance to take a trip now w/DS =).

But despite that, I wouldn’t change what I have now for anything in the world!

Coolproducts: I was 37 when I had my first child so I think 30 isn’t too long at all!

The ability to remember. I can’t remember a thing now, if i don’t write it down forget it. I also used to stay up late, 9pm is now my bedtime adn I hate mornings.

Oh the sleep is up there, the money and my skinny self would be close too.

Great question! I miss not having to plan someone else’s day. I feel like a cruise director most days. It would be nice if they could come up with a little bit of play time by themselves. I just want to rest a little. lol

Heck, what DON’T I miss? Money, free time, laundry that got folded, a clean house, the ability to have a few drinks and not pass out right away, my sexy ass and boobs…I could go on and on.

But as much fun as DH and I had, just last week I mentioned that I missed our son while he was spending the night at my mom’s, and DH said, “Yeah, things are pretty boring around here without him, aren’t they?” Which about sums it up for me.

I miss the downtime. Right now, my daughter is exhausting because she is so busy and on the go. I live for nap times!

Really, nothing! I did miss things when the boys were smaller!

If I remembered anything I ‘d be able to answer the question. I do remember partying a LOT. Closing the bar, going out to Bob Evans for some breakfast to soak up the drinks, home for a quick shower and off to work.

After 18 yrs of raising kids, I have no ambition to go out and drink or have fun for that matter. I’m happy with my kids, books, hubby and my 10pm bedtime. lol.

While I wouldn’t trade the Boy Wonder for anything, there are a few bits of my “former” life I miss a teeeeny bit…
- having a house that STAYS clean for more than 5 minutes
- taking a shower whenever I want
- not needing 3 weeks notice to make plans for a night out
- SLEEP!

The sleep. Definitely the sleep. I’m a night owl and having a child that gets up by 7am does not go well with night owl tendencies. Especially when said night owl needs at least 8 hours of sleep to function properly…

I miss the general freedom, being able to come and go as I please without car seats, and screaming kids who don’t want to be strapped in. But I love them with all of my heart and wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world!

well, now i’m on the other end (empty nest) but thinking about when both of my kids were at home, i remember wishing my time was my own. like if i wanted to go do something but knew i couldn’t because of my kid’s schedule or their personal needs.

I wouldn’t mind sleeping past 8am every once in awhile. The only other thing I miss is shopping without being all business. With my daughter, I’ve got to power shop. It would be nice to browse every now and then.

I actually don’t have that question to contend with, but getting married was in itself a life-changing event… I mean, considering someone before yourself and all those other things… Hey, they say getting a puppy (which we just got) gets you ready for a baby. I’m definitely lacking in my coveted sleep!

I think the only thing I really miss is just being able to do something at the drop of a hat or go out at night and not have to worry about bedtimes, potty proximity and did we remember to bring the extra sippy cup of milk. Other than that I adore the kids. And hubby lets me sleep all morning on the weekends if I want!

I miss only having to worry about myself.

Hi - I used to miss that life without kids for a little while - especially not getting woken up at the crack of dawn. But if soon passes and before long, it’s you trying to wake them up on a weekend.

I was just thinking about this the other day; that I really don’t remember my life before kids. It’s been over 10 years now and we’re so busy lately. However, we were at the local college a few Fridays back at a soccer game and I was listening to the girls behind me talk about their plans for the weekend. I do remember that!!!!

I just wish I could get some more sleep!

It has been fun reading all the responses. I think sleep wins hands down, unanimiously. I’m sleeping right now as I type. But as the saying goes, you can’t live with them and you definitely can’t live without their cute little faces.

With the kids there has never been a dull moment in my life. While, I can recall dull moments before the kids. My family has taught me many things. I can get a family of 5 fully dressed in 15 minutes…teeth brushed, clothes ironed, hair combed, whatever. I can juggle a rigorous 24 hour schedule and compact it into 12 hours almost daily…prepare 3 children for school, 2 adults for work, transport kids to and from school, then to evening activity, cook, clean, wash clothes, fold clothes, assist with homework, prepare baths, read a book, and then - drum roll please - top the day off with a night cap for my husband!!! Right. I think not.

Sleep would he high up the list for sure…but I think the biggest thing would be spontaneity. I really enjoyed the freedom to be out of the house after 8:00 pm. We’d also be more inclined to be back in San Francisco rather that Silicon Valley. I could go on…daydreaming

It’s hard to remember…I’ve been a mommy since I was 16, so with the new 2 yr old. I have been a mommy for more than half my life!
I think I miss money & time to myself!

i don’t know if i miss anything before my kids. i still date my first boyfriend (who is my husband), i’ve had a better figure after my 2nd and 3rd child than I did in high school. i’m fortunate. HOWEVER, i do regret not financially preparing to have children. i wish i did more to prepare for a family like learn how to organize and take some home economic type things. more importantly, i wished i got a good job and saved before i brought my ‘lil gems into the world. good q Kailani.

I love, love, love the kids, but I do miss sleeping in and going out to eat and watching movies in a movie theater and traveling out of the country–all much harder to do now!

Watching a movie all the way through without stopping.

Talking on the phone without a ‘major catastrophe’ occuring.

A clean house staying clean more than five minutes.

But, though I may miss those things, I wouldn’t give up my kids for all the tea in China!