It’s Only 72 Hours

December 27, 2007

Looks like we’re spending this weekend in Maui with the in-laws. Yes, as if Christmas morning wasn’t enough, we’re now staying at MIL’s house for 72 hours.

It all started when DH’s brother, who also lives in Maui, decided that they just HAD to celebrate their son’s 1st birthday on Saturday the 29th. Never mind that that is actually Baby Bug’s birthday. Never mind that we had already planned a small party with my family. Never mind that they said we could stay at their house but later changed their minds and now we can’t find a hotel because of the busy holiday season. So, looks like MIL’s house it is.

To make the situation worse, when FIL suggested that we also sing Happy Birthday to Baby Bug at the party, they threw a fit saying that it would take away from their son’s day. Are you kidding me? Their son’s birthday is not till the middle of January! Couldn’t they have picked another day?

BIL and his wife are a strange lot and I’ve come to accept it. Their whole way of thinking is very different and it amazes me that they found each other because I can’t imagine anyone else putting up with them. BIL believes that if you’re not arguing, you’re not communicating. Therefore, he and his wife argue A LOT. When I say A LOT, I mean on a daily basis with no regard to who’s around at the time. I, on the other hand, am the type to avoid public spectacles at all costs. This leads me to stay away from their family gatherings as much as possible.

However, since it doesn’t look like I’ll be able to get out of this one, I’ll do what I always do . . . let everything go in one ear and out the other. After all, the bottom line is that - like it or not - this is DH’s family.

But why, oh why, couldn’t I have normal in-laws?

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39 Comments on “It’s Only 72 Hours”

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Rach (Heart of Rachel) said:

Oh, I feel for you. Don’t worry, I’m sure 72 hours can go by quickly. Wishing you well.

Have a great New Year celebration.

Rach (Heart of Rachel)’s last blog post..My Son’s Dream Kitchen (Yohanism #15)

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Courtney said:

Um, how BIZARRE that their kid’s birthday isn’t until January, they are having the party on YOUR kid’s birthday, and you can’t even sing Happy Birthday to your own kid. Did we just enter the Twilight Zone?

You could always say, “I need to leave the house now to go to Krispy Kreme, because there is a depressed pregnant woman on Oahu who would like to live vicariously through me while I eat the good stuff.” LOL! Then toss a candle in one of those bad boys and sing away!

Happy (early) birthday Baby Bug!

Courtney’s last blog post..How to Make a Mommy Cry

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Grace said:

There are NO normal in-laws, Kailani. That’s the fact of life…:-)

Now that it seems you can’t avoid them in a couple of days, bring earplugs with you.
BTW, I hope your DH is not asking the same question (last line of this post)…that would be something!

Inspite of it all, I hope you could celebrate BB’s birthday in some way.

Grace’s last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #24

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Baby Advice said:

I agree with Grace, there are no such thing as normal in-laws!! Wishing you all the luck!! Before the party you should sing to your baby anyway!

Baby Advice’s last blog post..You Know What Is Right For Your Baby

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tonya said:

OMW…I’m afraid I would have had to said something when they said it would take it away from his day…how about take away from her day and she was here first??? I’m afraid I’m about to be looking at this same scenario though as my SIL is due extremely close to Lu’s b’day (approx a week apart). If the due date holds true, we could have issues ! Good luck for the next 72 hours…..can you go shopping or something to get out?

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TheAngelForever said:

As others have said - there is no such thing as normal in-laws. I am gearing up to visit my out-laws in a few days. We have not been there in over a year since I was pregnant last year. They always behave in person, I just get horribly sick since I am allergic to their dog. Our extended visit will be for 3 nights at Chez Out-Laws. Good luck with your visit.

Sorry about Baby Bug’s B-day being gobbled up by others in the family. What did your DH have to say about all of this. Did he mention to his family that it is Baby Bug’s birthday on that day and she is getting old enough to know these things? Happy birthday in advance to Baby Bug!

TheAngelForever’s last blog post..Bonding brothers, car naps and birthday party fun!

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BeachMama said:

How is it that our parents are normal and in-laws are not? If you have a SIL does she feel the same way about her in-laws but not her parents? Questions for the masses I guess.

I hope this time passes quickly for you and you can find some good to staying in Maui. I can sure think of worse places to be stranded :).

Merry Christmas!

BeachMama’s last blog post..A BeachMama Christmas

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Wendy said:

Oh man! You did well with controlling your mouth:) I am not so sure that I would have. My MIL is a pain most of the time and I have learned that it is better to deal with it. I hope that the weekend flies by and you have a better time than you think.

Wendy’s last blog post..Hope to be back soon

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Melissa Markham said:

You are a better person than I am. I would have told them we already had plans and that we couldn’t make it.

My MIL and FIL are lovely people as is my SIL. The extended family is a bit kooky, but so is mine.

Have a good time and keep up your great attitude! Perhaps, I shall learn from it:)

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Cathi said:

Kailani, take your sweet family and go home. Have DH politely tell his family that he already has plans for Saturday. That people have already been invited to Baby Bug’s birthday at your house. OR…spontaneously…everyone including a few of MIL’s neighbors sing Happy Birthday to Baby Bug on HER birthday and make a really BIG deal about it. Even pull out an awesome BIG pressie. Gee, have FIL give the pressie to her!
I know, so much easier said than done.
Big Smile and oh…by the way…my MIL hates me. She literally hates all her children’s spouses. PURE vengeful jealousy.

Cathi’s last blog post..Family Christmas Party

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witchypoo said:

I guess you want to be grateful that the nutbars live on another island, right? Didn’t you realize that nobody has had a baby before them? And that all must bow down to theirs when there is family gathered? And that no other child will ever matter to them?
What’s really funny about this, is their child won’t even remember the party. It’s always about them.

witchypoo’s last blog post..Toilets

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maria said:

The worst day of my life was the day my MIL decided the move into my back yard, the best day of my life was the day she left. You are not alone, my husbands whole family is NUTS. Of course my parents aren’t much better lol. But at least my mom never moved in. Because I am smart like that.

At least you’ll be on Maui…sigh. It could always be worse, somehow.

maria’s last blog post..Californication

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Kelly @ Love Well said:

What’s a normal in-law?!?

;-)

Good luck with this weekend. Your philosophy sounds like it’s the best one — just try to ignore it all. But easier said than done.

Kelly @ Love Well’s last blog post..Hoarfrost

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Desert Songbird said:

Ugh. I’m so sorry, Kailani. What a crappy way to have to spend your daughter’s birthday.

But, as you said, it’s only for three days, and hopefully your hubby will handle any “conflicts” that might arise.

Desert Songbird’s last blog post..Oh, the Luck!

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feefifoto said:

It’s simple — you obviously didn’t register at Normal In-Laws “R” Us before you got married! ;)

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Karen (Pediascribe) said:

Ah, I hear ya. MIL asked to talk to me on Christmas day (thankfully she’s 1000 miles away). The first words out of her mouth were “Are we good?” Yeah, not “Merry Christmas” like I’d expect. “Are we good?” in reference to a blow up we had a YEAR ago.
Yeah, we’re good, because I ignore every batty thing she does. She’s a freak and that will never change.
And dd wonders why I want to arrange a marriage for her. Not only would I find a good hubby, but I’d make sure his parents are not freaks!

Karen (Pediascribe)’s last blog post..CARD MY CHRISTMAS DOES IT RIGHT

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Adventures In Babywearing said:

I can’t stand being around arguing or people like that! Hope all is well by now!

Steph

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Jessica K said:

I feel for you! Unfortunately, Jeff gave my in-laws my blog address, so I can never vent about them there. How is it that the husbands we love so much come from such freaky families?!
My advice for the weekend would be to fake a headache and hide under the covers with your new nintendo ds all weekend ;) Just kidding. Hope you make it to the end of the 72 hours!

Jessica K’s last blog post..The Candle of Loving and Giving

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Pamela said:

I think they are jerking you

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Amy said:

Girl, I feel for ya. Thankfully I have wonderful in laws and we all get along, no problems whatsoever! I know I am blessed! All I can say is your teaching your girls valuable lessons by not adding fuel to the fire. Your girls will turn out fine, this I am sure. This other child, unfortunately, may not. I know you never know the future and there’s always hope!

It’s easy for me to say, but hang on tight and know your daughter’s are watching you. I’ll be thinking of you too! And come back to the blog and rant all you want! We’re here for you Kailani!

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Stacey said:

Oh goodness Kailani, I wouldn’t go. No, I think if you’re not even going to be able to celebrate Baby Bug’s birthday for fear of upsetting anyone, no way! I hope you don’t have to do this. If you do, I’m very sorry. And I hope you plan something grand when you get back home!

(I do indeed know how much you love pink! And…I appreciate that you paired me with Cathi, she’s such a sweet sweet soul.)

Stacey’s last blog post..What’s Fantabulistic and Pink? Go Ahead, Guess..

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Renee said:

My MIL gave me the best piece of advice when we were driving from FL to TX about a month after I married her “baby.” “EVERY FAMILY IS DIFFERENT.”
That bit of info has been a life saver to me so many times. I don’t know how MIL does it with her 4 married kids, I do know that she complains about all of them (I have to assume that she complains about me just as much as she does the rest of them…LOL!) but she puts on a straight face and doesn’t say much of anything to our faces. And I’m sure when she returns from MI I’ll get to hear stories that will make my ears curl.

That is so super weird that your in laws are celebrating their child’s birthday on your child’s birthday. I would have to take my child out to Chucky Cheese (or an equivalent in HI) and in my stubborness be late to their party. Oh and show up to his party with BB wearing a “It’s My Birthday!” crown. LOL!

I know that MIL & BIL will throw a major fit, but Hey! It is her birthday and not their child’s. She deserves a party too. Ooooh throw a party for BB on their kid’s birthday.

I’m not winning any points with your family, huh?

Renee’s last blog post..The Loot report…

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Jennifer said:

Oh, I feel for you. I find it VERY bizarre that your child’s birthday is the day that they just HAVE to celebrate their child’s (whose birthday isn’t until mid-January). I would sooooo sing to my child & they would just HAVE to get over it. Gotta love in-laws! Here’s hoping that the 72 hours breeze by without a whole lot of controversy. Happy New Year to you & yours!

Jennifer :-)
Jennifer’s last blog post..Christmas Blessings

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Melissa said:

They planned their son’s party on your daughter’s actual birthday? Sounds like some sort of evil plot in a Disney movie ;) You need your kick-butt Princess’s to show them what’s up while you’re there! Here’s hoping that this is the fastest 72 hours on the planet!

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Summer said:

Wow, that is so very rude of them! I got lucky with my in laws.

Summer’s last blog post..In case someone is reading and cares

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Jamie said:

You are making me soooo thankful that I have wonderful inlaws. There are some uncomfortable moments with my own family (my parents have been divorced since I was 7) but all in all it’s not bad.

Good luck this weekend! I’m like you…I avoid conflict at all costs!

Jamie’s last blog post..I?ll Sit on Your Lap, Shine Your Boots, Whatever it Takes

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tammy b said:

yikes!
what a pair of tools!
here’s hopin’ things get better fast
and happy birthday to the bug!

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Dana said:

Oh my gosh, that is unbelievable Kailani!!! Happy Birthday to Baby Bug by the way…and I’m singing it LOUDLY!!! Sorry you have to put up with that….at least you don’t live WITH them?? Trying to look at the bright side here. Anyway, I agree stuff like arguing between spouses in public is just plain RUDE!! I hope you somehow can bear the weekend!!!

Dana

Dana’s last blog post..Not much of nuthin!

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Dana said:

Oh my gosh, that is unbelievable Kailani!!! Happy Birthday to Baby Bug by the way…and I’m singing it LOUDLY!!! Sorry you have to put up with that….at least you don’t live WITH them?? Trying to look at the bright side here. Anyway, I agree stuff like arguing between spouses in public is just plain RUDE!! I hope you somehow can bear the weekend!!!

Dana

Dana’s last blog post..Not much of nuthin!

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Kila said:

Too bad you and DH and the girls can’t just stay home sick! ;)

Christmas in Maui sounds good. We are expecting another snowstorm here.

I already have my 2008 Hawaiian calendar! I order them every year from ABC online, enough of them for the whole family.

Kila’s last blog post..Christmas 2007…

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donetta said:

Because there is no such thing. Happy birthday to you baby girl. So sing to her if you want too!

donetta’s last blog post..Dash got his Hair cut.

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Wendy said:

I don’t think “Normal” and “In-Laws” belong in the same sentence! That takes a lot of nerve to deny the singing to Baby Bug on her own birthday! I don’t think I could let that one slide. Good for you for being the bigger person!

Wendy’s last blog post..Whew! It’s Over!

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Michelle at Scribbit said:

Oh wow, that’s just amazingly unpleasant. Why are the biggest wars among family? We just came off of a Christmas where my sister in law was in top form and well beyond her normal snotty rudeness. Just when you thought she couldn’t get worse. She ought to give classes she’s so good at the “showing people how you hate them” thing.

Michelle at Scribbit’s last blog post..Things Overhead During the Holidays

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Deb - Mom of 3 Girls said:

That just seems nuts that you can’t celebrate your own child’s birthday the way you’d planned because of someone else… I hope that Baby Bug still has a wonderful day as much as possible!

Deb - Mom of 3 Girls’s last blog post..Thursday Thirteen #21 - Our Christmas in a list

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Geekwif said:

I followed Michelle’s link at Scribbit to get here. Looks like I’m a little late, but I say you sing to that baby if you want to. It’s her birthday, and there is no reason their son can’t share the celebration with her. I hope those 72 hours surprise you by going better than you expect.

Geekwif’s last blog post..Freestyle Friday

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Sparky Duck said:

key word here is December 29th! gotta love inlaws, though i do love my inlaws, mrs duck may not say the same about hers

Sparky Duck’s last blog post..Duck Soup Bowl 07 #2-Vehicle Day

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Lisa in CA said:

That is some nerve to schedule their party on Baby Bugs special day. Don’t let them ruin it. If you want to sing Happy Birthday to Baby Bug and it bothers them, tell them ahead of time that they are welcome to take their child and leave the room while you sing.

My son and his cousin are 3 days apart and this has presented a problem for us in the past. My ILs choose one or the other party to attend (usually not ours) and I just try to ignore that they always choose one child over the other. Fortunately, my son hasn’t said anything about it.

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