I Wanna Hold Your Hand

March 3, 2008 by Kailani  
Filed under my family

Holding Girlie Girl’s hand.

Sometimes I take it for granted. We get somewhere, jump out of the car, and immediately grab each other’s hand. It’s almost become a habit.

However, when I was walking her to school one morning with her tiny hand in mine, I began to wonder how much longer she’ll let me do this. All around me I saw other families with older children who preferred to walk a few steps ahead of their parents. They were “too cool” to be seen being escorted by an adult.

It made me sad. Girlie Girl and I have a strong bond but even then I know the time will come where I’ll need to let her grow up and show some independence. Until then, I’m going to hold her hand every chance I get.


BTW, for those who were asking me about shoyu and mochiko, here’s a little explanation:

  • Shoyu – Shoyu is a soy sauce, which is a dark brown liquid made from soya beans that have undergone a fermentation process. Shoyu is one the most important condiment used to flavor food and can be found in most grocery stores (Asian food section) or in health stores.
  • Mochiko – Mochiko flour is flour made from mochi rice and is popular in many Asian countries. You can find this sweet rice flour at most Asian grocery stores and a number of online stores, including Amazon.com.
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Owner and founder of An Island Life. Sharing my life as a mother to 3 wonderful daughters, working as a flight attendant, and living a blessed life in Hawaii.


29 Responses to “I Wanna Hold Your Hand”
  1. Kelly Rigby says:

    Thanks for the ingredient clarification. I’m sure I’ll be able to get them here in Australia. We have so much Asian cuisine here.

    I really know what you mean by Girlie Girl letting you hold her hand. My son is almost 4, but he’s already telling his dad that he doesn’t want kisses. he’s too big. My husband’s devastated because he’s very affectionate, but is trying to respect his boundaries. Right now mummy still gets her kisses so I’m grabbing as many as I can because my day will come too. Why do they have to grow up! *wails*


    Kelly Rigby’s last blog post..Quote of the Week – CRITICISM

  2. Rosie says:

    I can totally relate to your post. My little girl is 4 and I know the hand holding won’t continue for a great deal longer. Already kissing her goodbye before she goes into school is not cool! They grow up so fast. I’m savouring every moment.

    Rosie’s last blog post..Gorgeous Chicks

  3. Write From Karen says:

    Oh Kailani, I hate to tell you this, but yes, it will happen and it will hurt. It’s at that point, that very moment when she pulls away, that you know things will never be the same again.

    I know you hear this all the time, but I can’t stress to you enough, enjoy your special bonding time NOW, because it will change all too soon. *smile*

    You’ll blink and they will be teenagers and though that can be special in a different way, it will never be as it is now.

  4. Cathi says:

    Don’t stop holding girlie girl’s hand. My kids still gave me a good-bye kiss when I was dropping them off in the car at the high school. We’d drive up, stop and I’d lean over and say good-bye. It had happened everyday of their lives so they never questioned it.

    Cathi’s last blog post..She’s A Married Lady

  5. Laura @ Laura Williams' Musings says:

    I know what you mean on the hand holding.

    My 9 and 7 year old boys will still grab mny hand at times but I don’t think it will be much longer before they let go for good. My heart breaks just thinking about it. They don’t hold my hand all the time but once in a while, they are transported back to being their littlest selves and will grab my hand.

    My 5 year old dd still grabs my hand every chance she gets but how much longer?

    reminds me of the quote…

    “Mothers hold their children’s hands but for a little while, their hearts forever.” -Unknown

    and on another note:

    tagged ya:


    Laura @ Laura Williams’ Musings’s last blog post..4×4 Meme Tag

  6. TheAngelForever says:

    Kids really do grow up too quickly. I know I cherish the time that my 4 year old son will hold my hand. He has already started to push it away from time to time.

    Enjoy your moments with your daughter :)

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  7. Jessica says:

    hang on to her! it goes toooooo fast!

    Jessica’s last blog post..tagged again!

  8. Renee says:

    I think it depends on the child and the situation. I try to give DD her independence but I insist on hand holding in dangerous places like parking lots and she doesn’t balk about it at all. Just Friday we were walking to the car with her friend and she was dancing around, walking backwards, in the middle of the “road” of the parking lot. A car was trying to get past us and she didn’t notice…so I hollered at her (in front of her friend…TOTALLY EMBARRASING!) but I was forgiven in nano-seconds. Her friend’s mother doesn’t insist on the hand holding (she has 3 kiddos).
    I try to lighten the mood when we’re holding hands by being silly and skipping or running all crazy. DD seems to like that I’m not afraid to act silly. Just waiting for when that will be embarrassing for her too. LOL!

    Grab them while you can, they run off so quickly.

    Steven Curtis Chapman – Cinderella
    From the album This Moment

    She spins and she sways
    To whatever song plays
    Without a care in the world
    And I’m sitting here wearing
    The weight of the world on my shoulders

    It’s been a long day
    And there’s still work to do
    She’s pulling at me saying, “Dad I need you
    There’s a ball at the castle and I’ve been invited
    And I need to practice my dancing
    Oh please, Daddy please�?

    So I will dance with Cinderella
    While she is here in my arms
    ‘Cause I know something the prince never knew
    Oh, I will dance with Cinderella
    I don’t want to miss even one song
    ‘Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight
    And she’ll be gone …

    She says he’s a nice guy
    And I’d be impressed
    She wants to know if I approve of the dress
    She says, “Dad the prom is just one week away
    And I need to practice my dancing
    Oh please, Daddy please�?
    Well, she came home today
    With a ring on her hand
    Just glowing and telling us
    All they had planned
    She says, “Dad the wedding’s still six months away
    But I need to practice my dancing
    Oh please, Daddy please�?

    Renee’s last blog post..Hi & Bye!

  9. Pamela says:

    I can’t remember when the girls quit holding on to my hand.

  10. Jessica K says:

    Thank God my boys seem to be slow growing up in that area. Grayson still wants a hug and a kiss in front of his whole class when I drop him off at school. I have braced myself for the day when that stops, because I know eventually it has to. It will still break my heart, though.

    Jessica K’s last blog post..Dumpster Divers Club

  11. Holly Schwendiman says:

    I love this post Kailani! It’s SO true. I’m finding though that even when they start growing into the “too cool” stage, they still love it when you tell them sweet things and give them kisses at bed time. :)


  12. Holly Schwendiman says:

    Forgot to add how they still love those shows of affection in private moments like bed time but always end with “Mom, don’t tell anyone you do that okay?” *wink*


  13. Melissa says:

    I’m glad you clarified on the ingredients… I was just going to google them, but it’s nice to know :)
    It is hard when they grow up and are too cool for their parents. My oldest won’t give me hugs any more. And the other day, we were walking and I put my arm around his shoulder… he squirmed away and said , “MOOOOOOOM!!” Sigh :(

  14. Grace says:

    I guess as moms, no matter how old our children get, they are still our babies and we always would want to hold them close. I love holding my daughter’s hand too. We sleep holding hands in the night.

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  15. Sher :) says:

    I know what you mean, but after they go through that stage, they come back around. My daughter, 38, and I still hold hands sometimes. :)

    Sher :) ’s last blog post..February Book Giveaway ~ I Love You More

  16. yoshi says:

    I think it all depends on your relationship with your kids, but my friends daughter still holds her mom’s hand, and she’s now 18 years old. it’s kinda funny the closeness they have. it’s almost like they’re sisters instead of mom/daughter.

    But yeah, i’m so ready to make that chicken lol and yeah i could never live without soy sauce. shoyu is in general soy sauce btw. :P

    yoshi’s last blog post..Jeff Healey dies from cancer

  17. Deb - Mom of 3 Girls says:

    Abby’s never been much for holding hands – she’s always been independent and only held our hands under protest. Hannah is the one that I’m going to miss holding hands with when she outgrows it… And Becca – another little miss independent who’s already pulling her hand out of mine whenever she can… Sigh.

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  18. Stacey says:

    It’s a beautiful photo that goes perfectly with a beautiful post. You’re a terrific mommy and a blessing to so many. xo

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  19. Desert Songbird says:

    Don’t fret too much; my 12yo daughter still likes to hold my hand. In fact, she still likes to cuddle.

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  20. Sister Snoopy says:

    I miss those days with my daughter. She’s 14 now and thinks she hates me. I’m looking forward to the day when she realizes that Mom isn’t all that bad… *sniffle*

    Is Shoyu separate from regular ol’ soy sauce? My mom always calls Kikkoman’s–or any other soy sauce, acutally– Shoyu. (I haven’t read the questions about it so you’ve probably already answered it!)

    BTW, I’m heading to your neck of the woods in a couple weeks!!!!! *squee*

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  21. Jennifer in OR says:

    I must be emotional today. Very tender post…

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  22. Lisa says:

    My girls are the ones who don’t really like to hold my hand as we walk in a store or around the neighborhood. However, they still give me plenty of kisses. I get 3 kisses from each girl every morning before they get out the car for school. 3 kisses, 1 each for the words in ‘I Love You’.

    Lisa’s last blog post..Cinnamon Roll Sunday

  23. Charlotte (Charmed Life) says:

    my son Matthew is turning 19 months and he doesn’t let me hold his hands anymore :(

    Charlotte (Charmed Life)’s last blog post..Happy Birthday To Me

  24. Lulu says:

    What a sweet post. Hold on that tiny little hand as long as you can!

    Lulu’s last blog post..Sweet Tea and Fiddle-Dee-Dee

  25. Briggie says:

    Okay, I’m giving away my age – I’m 48 and I have 4 kids ages 29, 26, 20 and 14. I still hold hands with my kids. Now the boys don’t actually let me hold their hands, they offer me their arm which is quite nice actually – after all, I taught them to offer a lady their arm from the time they were old enough to walk! My girls and I stroll hand in hand or arm in arm – I think it has a lot to do with how open you are with your affection – the more you cuddle and hug and gives kisses when they are little, the more it spills over into their growing years. Now, I’m not saying there were seasons where it was cooler for them to be with their buddies than with mom or dad, but I have always taught my children that friends and lovers will come and go, but family will always be there and nothing can change that! So, take heart, Girlie Girl will always seek out your hand as long as she knows your hand is there.
    Take care, and God bless,
    Briggie ^i^

    Briggie’s last blog post..Joel Osteen – He Delights In Your Prosperity

  26. Dee says:

    Ari still holds my hand, hugs me while walking hangs on my shoulders and sits on my lap and she’s 15. I think it’s because she is a girl, Noah is a independant 8 year old all boy! He doesn’t need my hand anymore. Yet he is still affectionate. Kisses us good night and good morning.

    Dee’s last blog post..I really have nothing to blog about……

  27. kate5kiwis says:

    well, funny, my experience is really similar to briggie’s… all my kids are super-affectionate.
    my 18 yr old son often puts his arm around my shoulders as we walk along the street, my daughter (14) sits on my knee, gives me hugs and kisses, holds my hand as we walk along…
    our little three lads are really snuggly as well.
    (once or twice my S10 has snuck away from a public kiss in front of his *cool* mates… but i’m ok with that, he’s usually really huggy and hey, maybe i was pushing it a bit lol.)

    so i’m wishing you tons more years of hand-holding with Girlie Girl.
    love, kate in New Zealand X

    kate5kiwis’s last blog post..lost in translation

  28. Bahama Mama says:

    Don’t worry – my daughter is 10 and still lets me hold her hand!

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