First Day of Pre-School

June 15, 2009 by Kailani  
Filed under main blog, my family

Today was Baby Bug’s first day of pre-school . . . and of course this morning there was a major accident on the freeway causing them to close all but one lane. I had to leave at 6:30 am just to get her to school by 8am. With all the rushing around, I was afraid that she wouldn’t take too well to the new environment but she did really well. In fact, while I was showing her around her new class, she kept saying, “You go home now, Mommy.”

My only concern is that they put her in the 4 year old class because she was born late in her year. I had specifically informed them that I was holding her back a year and wanted her placed in the 3 year old class. I feel she’s a little behind most kids her age in that she isn’t potty trained, doesn’t know all her alphabets & basic numbers, and still has difficulty communicating.

Now all the 3 year old slots are filled and I’m afraid that she’ll have a hard time keeping up with the rest of the kids. However, at this point there really isn’t anything they can do except let me know if a slot opens up. Oh well . . .

Anyway, she had a great first day. I just hope tomorrow goes just as well. Wish us luck!

For those with children born late in the year, when did you start their schooling?

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26 Responses to “First Day of Pre-School”
  1. Desert Songbird says:

    My son has a summer birthday, so we had to wait to enroll him in preschool until he turned three. When he started preschool, he was considered a “young” three, but because he was a younger child with an older sibling to emulate, he did just fine. By the time he finished preschool, his teacher and the director told me he was borderline, meaning he could use another year of preschool or he could head to kindergarten – it was my choice. I enrolled him at both schools, thinking I would make the decision when the school year began. Turns out, he made it for me. I had registered him in a summer school program at the elementary school, and on the first day (which happened to be his fifth birthday), he informed me that he was going to like his “new school.” Problem solved!

  2. Mrs. Organic says:

    My daughter’s birthday is the day before the school deadline. I wish I had held her back a year, especially after reading Outliers.

    Emotionally, the difference is more noticeable the older she gets. But every child is different – you have to go with your gut.

  3. Pamela says:

    when she sees all the other kids going potty — that will probably train her very quickly!!

  4. Amanda says:

    Our boys are going to be at both ends of the spectrum when it comes to school. With a June bday, my oldest is young for his classes, but he thrives on the routine and structure of school so he does great academically. It’s behavior we have had issues with.

    My other son has a November bday, and with the cutoff at September 1, he’ll be one of the older kids in his class, and probably more mature on the behavior scale.

    Either way, my friend who’s an elementary teacher said most of the kinks get worked out by the end of 1st grade for all the kids. She said that seems to be the point when the kids really grow and mature.

  5. Naomi (Urban Mummy) says:

    I have an end of December boy, and live where the cutoff is the end of the year. So at 4, he is the youngest in his Junior kindergarten class. He starts Senior kindergarten (kindergarten for the Americans) in September, and will still be 4.

    I contemplated holding him back for a lot of reasons (mostly because he’s a boy! I’m a high school teacher, and I can spot the young boys (grade 9 or 10) a mile away!!!) I decided against it, but know that I will have things to deal with as he gets older. He’s smart enough, can certainly handle the work.

    On the flip side, I have a cousin with a girl on the border, and she decided to hold her back. She’s now in 3rd grade, I believe, and THRIVING!

    So what’s the answer? Only you know your child. DOn’t worry about her keeping up in her current preschool class – the teachers will make sure she does okay, and will help her as needed. You can then defer your final decision until later.

  6. Cathi ~ The Way I See It Too says:

    This could be a good thing Kailani. Baby Bug may look around and follow the example of the other little people in her pre-school class. She may very well want to potty in the bathroom like her new peers and learn the alphabet and numbers from them.

  7. Jen @ One Moms World says:

    My little L actually starts pre-K in August. Her birthday is in October so we thought this was the best choice for her. I have just always kept her home with me. She was a late potty trainer too. We finally got her potty trained the week after her 4th birthday. It finally just clicked with her.

    I love the picture you have of her, she has the biggest smile :)

  8. stampedwithgrace says:

    I have a daughter who’s b’day is Aug 30th. we homeschoool and I wanted to start her last year in Kindergarten, but it didn’t full time, so this year we will continue and if she learns quickly we will soon be in 1st grade and if not then we’ll do 1st next year. this would make her the oldest in her class, but either way I think she’ll be fine :)

  9. Jen E @ mommablogsalot says:

    Glad she had a great first day – hope things work out with the whole 4 year old / 3 year old thing. :)

  10. Rechelle says:

    we held our late birthday boy back a year after discussing it with his preschool teacher- I do think it really helps sometimes-

  11. sharon says:

    first of all, your daughter is BEAUTIFUL!!

    My son started school at 5 3/4, he needed the extra time to mature, and did great.

    daughter is a toddler, so not sure, she is an April bday so will likely send her when she is 5 1/2…
    my feeling is my kids only have these early years for such a short time, and I love having more time with them, not in a rush to send them off to school early…

  12. Just Mom says:

    Congratulations to your daughter for having a great first day.

    As for when to enroll a child in school, each child is different. My son’s birthday is early in the year, so he could have been in kindergarten during the 2008-09 school year. We decided to wait on kindergarten enrollment so he has time to develop his fine motor, gross motor and speech skills. We are so happy we made that decision.

  13. Baba says:

    I wouldn’t worry. She’ll catch on in no time, just like my daughter did.

  14. sagemom says:

    DS1 is late born too and we thought about holding him back in case he wasn’t ready, but since he’s still going through speech therapy hopefully it’ll help him going to school early (if he’s accepted).

    She looks so excited=). Did you cry? I think I’m gonna cry the first time I have to drop DS1 off to school…

    But that is one thing I don’t miss about work, commuting. Just a single accident can cause such a back up. No wonder we were voted worst commute in the nation!

  15. Muthering Heights says:

    What a big day! It’s great that she was so excited to be there!

  16. Holly Schwendiman says:

    How can she be so big already? Hope you’re feeling well.


  17. H.E.Eigler says:

    I’ve been thinking of you and I hope you are feeling good these days. She is such a cutie! I hope she settles in and enjoys herself!!

  18. Janet says:

    She’s so sweet. I’m glad she had a good first day. My baby girl was born in late August. After a lot of thought we went ahead and sent her on schedule since the cut off here isn’t until October. She had just turned 4 when she started preschool and was still 4 when she started Kindergarten. Her birthday was the week after school started. She had a good Kindergarten year and we believe we made the right decision for her in the end.

  19. Asianmommy says:

    Oh–she’s adorable!

    My little one will turn 5 in August. Our cut off for Kindergarten is Sept 1. She will be one of the youngest in her class, but I don’t want to hold her back–I think she’ll be ready.

  20. Kristi says:

    I toyed with that decision for my younger one for kindergarten this fall. In our state the cut off is December 1sty, and his birthday is in October. I decided to hold him back this year and give him an extra year. I figure the extra year will be a gift to him and he’ll be that much more prepared when he does go next year.

  21. Elizabeth says:

    I’m sure she’ll do well and rise to the challenge!! What a cutie!

  22. Becky Workman says:

    What a great picture! She’s so pretty! I think that she’ll do great! You never know, maybe the older kids will challenge her and help her along!

    My kiddo’s were premie’s and I worried about the same things. But, so far so good! They both are up where they should be!

    Good luck!

  23. Amanda says:

    Sarah’s birthday is Nov 30, 3 days before the cutoff. We were going to keep her back a year, btu decided not to. I figure if she isn’t ready for Kinder then I would hold her back.

  24. Deb - Mom of 3 Girls says:

    Aww, what a cutie – and such a big girl to be starting preschool! :)

    Hannah’s birthday is November 29th – two days before the Dec 1st cutoff here in MI. Technically we could’ve sent her to kindergarten when she was 4, but I insisted on holding her back and sending her to ‘Young Fives’ (Michigan’s developmental or pre-kindergarten program) instead. It was the best decision we could’ve made for her – she finished kindergarten this year and is doing amazingly well.

    I also have a November birthday, and wasn’t held back – so I guess I’m a bit biased. I was small for my age and shy – and was tormented all throughout elementary school, so I’m a bit sensitive when it comes to this issue.

    Good luck!!

  25. JHS says:

    She is so adorable.

    Mattie-Boo’s bday is Nov. 16. He started kindergarten at the age of 4 and did fine until 4th grade when he began struggling to keep up. His hand-eye coordination was the major problem, but that was combined with the fact that many parents had held their kids back (esp. the boys) so many of the kids in his class were nearly a full two years older and a full head taller than him.

    By 7th grade, it was a major issue because I sent him to the local junior high school and nobody even noticed him. It was very upsetting because it was the same junior high where my sister had been teaching since 1971 but she was no help. She was the same person who never bothered to tell me that I could have had him tested by a school district psychologist to assess his readiness for kindergarten which she did with her own child when he was going to start kindergarten (both of her boys are late Oct. babies). That’s one of the many reasons I no longer have any contact with her, but that’s another subject . . .

    I pulled MattieBoo out of the public school and enrolled him in a local Christian school where he started 7th grade again with great success. He continued after graduating from 8th grade to a private Christian high school where he just completed 11th grade with an A- average GPA (it would be an A+ were it not for Algebra II) and was Student of the Year.

    In contrast, my birthday is Dec. 21 so I missed the Dec. 1 deadline and watched my friends walk to the first day of school from the doorway where I was sobbing uncontrollably. By first grade, it was clear that I should have started sooner because I was bored to death. My parents resisted the school’s urging to advance me until 6 weeks into 3rd grade when they could resist no longer and skipped me ahead to 4th grade. I had to learn cursive handwriting and a few other things at home at night. I was 17 when I graduated from h.s. but it was all good.

    So I strongly advocate starting children in school not based on chronological age, but when they are ready.

  26. Sister Snoopy says:

    My birthday is in November and I started school on Maui. A year and a half later we moved to Idaho where I was the youngest in my class since the deadline there was 15 October rather than 31 December.

    I wish to high heaven I’d been kept behind. It seemed like I was always the last one for everything and it stunk… Driving, dating, etc…

    Scholastically, I was ready to start Kindergarten at age 4… in fact, I was put into 1st grade half way through the school year because I knew everything already. However, I didn’t do well emotionally so they kept me back at the end of the year.

    I’m a wee bit biased myself because of how hard school was for me being so young…

    Follow your instincts. You’re Mommy and Mommy knows her child the best. Best wishes! {{{hugs}}}

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