Drama in the Skies

July 6, 2008 by Kailani  
Filed under flight attendant stories

While I was at work this weekend, a co-worker and good friend of mine got slapped on the a$$ by a passenger.

She and I were working the beverage cart together when we came to the passenger. She asked him if he wanted something to drink but he declined. As she walked away, he must have changed his mind because he reached out and slapped her butt to get her attention. She turned to me and said, “OMG. I just got slapped on the a$$!” We both stared at him in shock, speechless.

Across the plane in the other aisle was the only male flight attendant on the crew. When he saw the commotion, he immediately came over and confronted the man. Of course, the passenger denied it calling it “complete bullsh*t” and got very defensive and confrontational. He was then advised that he just assaulted a crew member and could be arrested if she decided to press charges.

During the rest of the flight, he never moved. In fact, he never even looked up from his dvd player. Whenever a crew member asked him if he wanted a meal or drink, he just ignored them. She decided to just let it go.

At the end of the flight, my friend and I were the last two to walk off the plane. When we got into the terminal, there he was with his wife and daughter just waiting for us. He was talking to his wife and she kept sneering at us and shaking her head. Apparently, he was telling her his side of the story. Since it was almost midnight, the terminal was pretty empty so I immediately started looking around for security. Of course, I couldn’t find any.

Thankfully, our male co-worker came back to check on us and as he approached the family, they started to walk away. As they went their separate way, the wife yelled to us that she plans to call customer service and sue us for discrimination.

Um, okay. You do that.

What in the world makes some people think they can treat you like you’re nothing? It obviously wasn’t an accident otherwise he would have apologized in the first place, right? If it were me, I would have informed the captain while we were still in the air and request that security meet the plane. I mean, you just never know if the situation will escalate. However, it wasn’t my call and I think she just didn’t want to make waves.

In the end, she did call our inflight office who told her they would find out who he was and go after him. He can’t treat people with disrespect and get away with it. As far as the company is concerned, he interfered with a crew member’s duties, assaulted a crew member, and displayed threatening behavior.

I hope they can find him.

About the author:
Owner and founder of An Island Life. Sharing my life as a mother to 3 wonderful daughters, working as a flight attendant, and living a blessed life in Hawaii.


39 Responses to “Drama in the Skies”
  1. Liza R says:

    I’m constantly amazed by people’s behavior, and especially by what people think they can get away with, how little respect they have for others, etc. What a pig that guy is! I hope they go after him. Clearly, he needs to be taught a lesson. I bet he wouldn’t have tried to get the male co-worker’s attention that way.

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  2. Forgetfulone says:

    If it had been an accident, don’t you think he would have sheepishly apologized for the mistake? Or owned up to it somehow, maybe saying, “I’m sorry, I just didn’t know how else to get your attention.” But he didn’t. After he was confronted, he sulked the entire time. Don’t you think his wife knows that he’s like?

    I think I, too, would have asked the captain to have security meet you at the gate. Let us know if anything comes of it, which I’m sure it won’t, but you just never know. He’s got no legal leg to stand on. I’m sure you’ve got witnesses!

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  3. Mozi Esme's Mommy says:

    Oooh – that would make me mad! I think sometimes this theory that “the customer is always right” makes customers think employees should put up with anything. I hope your company does right by her.

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  4. witchypoo says:

    It was an assault, and should be treated as such. You were right on in your own instincts to call security.

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  5. Kim Priestap says:

    That guy is a classless idiot. Your instincts were right and your friend should have informed the captain and had security waiting. Since she didn’t address the situation immediately, it gives this guy a bit more leverage if the company finds him and he decides to fight back.

    His wife must be a complete idiot that he can behave this way behind her back and have her completely fooled. It naturally makes me wonder what else he’s doing behind her back.

  6. Sandier Pastures says:

    I think he did it on purpose! I mean, can’t really blame him – flight attendants are appealing (sexy butts) but still, he should not behave like that!

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  7. Sheila says:

    That was totally inappropriate behavior. I hope they find him, too. Please let us know if anything else happens.

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  8. Anne says:

    I can’t believe their are blaming the airlines now

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  9. Kristi says:

    What an awful experience. I wonder what his distorted view was and how a wife could believe it.

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  10. AmyG says:

    Wow… that’s just wrong on so many levels. And I love how the woman retaliated! Apparently he wasn’t man enough to stick up for himself, lol. I hope they find the guy. What a jerk!

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  11. LFM says:

    His behavior says it all. I’m no psychology genius but if faced with a situation like this…if it indeed was an accident, he totally would’ve felt bad, apologized profusely and you would’ve known he was legitimately sorry for having done what he did. You can tell by his reaction that he meant to do it. He should totally be found and charged for it!!!

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  12. happyathome says:

    Clearly no respect no respect for women. Obvious with the slap and also telling the wife his side of the story. Probably not the only time he has done it.

    happyathome’s last blog post..Got Ripe bananas? Make Bread!

  13. mannequin says:

    How in the world can his wife be so naive?!! And just how would that whole thing constitute discriminating against HIM anyway? Some people…

    Obviously other passengers witnessed the behavior , but then again, no one wants to get involved, right?

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  14. Kelly @ Pass the Torch says:

    Yikes. That guy sounds like he came straight out of the 70’s. Strange.

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  15. TheAngelForever says:

    I agree with you, I certainly would have called ahead to have security there to escort him off. Sounds like he does not know how to behave properly this day in age. He no doubt has done this before.

    Can you track who he was with the seat assignment to report it so if they call it is taken care of? Never a dull moment is it?

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  16. Melissa says:

    That’s terrible! You’re right… if it had been an accident, you’d think he would have apologized… some people just think they can do whatever they want… sigh…

  17. Muthering Heights says:

    Oh PLEASE!!! Sue for discrimination? I think your co-worker would have been equally upset no matter who slapped her on the butt.

    I agree with you, if the man had slapped her by accident, he would have apologized or something. I’m glad your company is looking in to it for her!

    Muthering Heights’s last blog post..Monkey See…

  18. Renee says:

    if the guy needed the flight attendant’s attention he should have used the call button located near every seat!!! IDIOT!
    And his wife is an idiot too for believing his crap.
    I wish your co-worker had dealt with him immediately instead of letting him get away with it. Idiots like this need to be taught how to behave in our society…and the first rule of kindergarden is “KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF.”

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  19. Dana says:

    Wow, too bad your friend didn’t do something about it immediately…but I can see her point too. I hate to make waves. That is really wrong what that guy did…and I can’t believe he was turning it around to his family and making a huge deal out of it. Me thinks he probably figured something may come out of it later (he gets in trouble for it) so he figured he better make it sound like he did nothing wrong so his wife would be on HIS side. Who knows. But that was totally inappropriate behavior and I’m sure he probably knows it.

    Sorry for your friend.

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  20. Aimee says:

    Wow! It’s amazing to me that there are people out there who still act like that… even more amazing is that this idiot has a wife! Wonder if they met from him slapping her butt too?

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  21. Angela says:

    Oh wow…. it amazes me how impolite people are. He should have just apologized and let it go.

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  22. Desert Songbird says:

    I have been on two flights where the crew were forced to make “that call” – in one instance, we were met upon landing by the LAPD as well as federal agents. Not a fun sight, but I was glad the crew took action.

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  23. yoshi says:

    what’s really sad is that I can’t even imagine what the other side of the story is… I mean, what other side could there be?

    I would have yelled out, “yeah, did he tell you he slapped her ass?” and then let’s see what his wife thinks. people are stupid. i hates them.

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  24. Summer says:

    Simply appalling! I hope they find him.

    Summer’s last blog post..Someday I’ll have teenage boys to feed

  25. Tammy says:

    Wow, amazing when people do something that degrading to someone and then have the audacity to turn around and act angry at the victim!

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  26. Carrie says:

    Oh my gosh! How sickening! It’s hard to believe someone can act so disgusting! I hope they find him too!

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  27. SaGem says:

    As a former airline employee who worked in many divisions, including the in-flight division, I am not surprised. It’s amazing how some passengers believe they can treat airline employees–from the agents to the flight crew–any way they want and get away with it. It’s unfortunate it happened. Thankfully, at least through my experience, this is the exception and not the norm. But it’s still unfortunate.

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  28. Shelly says:

    I just can’t imagine what he would tell his wife that would have her sneering at you?!

  29. Golden Girl says:

    I am constantly amazed at how many ill-mannered, rude people there are traveling on airplanes. I agree with you – If it would have been me, I would have had security waiting for that passenger upon landing.

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  30. Ginny says:

    Yikes that is crazy! I am so glad your company is sided with your friend.

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  31. diana/sunshine says:

    actions are very telling. the fact that he didn’t try to apologize or straighten out the misunderstanding (if that’s what it had been). or how both he and his wife acted afterwards. if it were me and my husband told me the allegations, i would press him and want him to figure out what happened.

    hope it all works out.

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  32. carla Pullum says:

    Wow thats awful! Some passengers on the plane can be weird. I hate flying!

  33. Crazy Daisy says:

    Such an uncomfortable situation! I don’t understand why some people think they can do anything…

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  34. Jordan says:

    Such a bad situation that can happen to someone.

  35. Jen @ One Moms World says:

    My goodness :( . I’m so sorry you had to deal with this. Of course he was going to tell his side of the story because he would have gotten in trouble with his wife. Men ugggh! I’m so glad your co-worker decided to call in and they find him.

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  36. Melissa Markham says:

    When I first started reading this, I was thinking that he was embarrassed. He meant to get her attention and instead of tapping her back, he got her bottom. These things can happen, a person moves, your aim is off, whatever. But then as I read the whole thing and the scene in the airport at the end, I agree that it wasn’t an accident and him being embarrassed and trying to say it was something it wasn’t. Hopefully, the airlines can track him down and teach him a bit about manners.

  37. Michele P. says:

    I cannot believe this man was so disrespectful and had the nerve to treat your friend that way! I honestly hope they DO find him and charge him, he needs to learn that his behavior will not be tolerated. Let us know if they every do find him!

  38. UptakeInOH says:

    The difficult thing for his wife if that she knows what he is and isn’t capable of. So if he did it, she knows it and just doesn’t want to admit it to herself. If you find out any follow-up, let us know!


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