Some People Shouldn’t Be Parents

March 20, 2007 by Kailani  
Filed under family topics

Over the weekend there was a news story of a father who left his 3 year old daughter alone in the car for over 90 minutes. He apparently parked the car and went into an apartment building. When he came back, she was unconscious. He took her to a nearby fire station where they weren’t able to find a pulse. Once at the hospital, she was pronounced dead.

Autopsy results show she died of hyperthermia (different from hypothermia) – overheating caused by environmental conditions.

Police say that the father did not have criminal intent, but may have been negligent.

Negligent? DUH? You think?

Who in they’re right mind would leave a child unattended in a car, let alone for 90 minutes? How does a family even begin to cope with such a tragic and unnecessary loss? Over the past couple of years, there have been a few instances where a parent left their child in the car for “just a second” while they ran into a store. When they came out, the car was gone . . . and so was the child. In these cases, the car was later found abandoned with the child unharmed. Haven’t we learned something from this?

However, in this case, I think the father may be claiming that he forgot she was there since the news report also goes on to talk about tips on how not to forget your child is in the car. I have a tip for him . . . turn around and check. How difficult is that?

Okay, I’m done with my ranting.

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29 Responses to “Some People Shouldn’t Be Parents”
  1. The Queen Of Cute Shoes says:

    Oh my goodness! What a sad and unnecessary loss. I wish the best for the family who now has to deal with this ‘neglegent’ dad! I think people should get jail time for that.. how in the heck do you ‘forget’ that you have a child with you…. That’s like forgetting that you have hands… who does that?!? What an idiot!!

  2. Lisa says:

    What a tragedy. But an accident is an accident. If it feels good to call the parent an idiot or say he never should have loved and lost a child, go ahead. I’m sure he’s punishing himself more than any blogger could. May your kids always be safe from harm, whatever the source.

  3. Pass the Torch says:

    Stuff like this makes me wretch. We hear the same kind of reports in Wisconsin, only in 20 below winter weather. Dad goes into the casino to gamble, and leaves the four-year old in the car for an hour. Four-year old gets out of the car to get help because he’s cold, and somebody finds him walking around in the parking lot until someone finds him and takes him to the hospital for hypothermia.

    Ugh.

  4. carmen says:

    Another idiot strikes again. I often think you should have to qualify to become a parent.

  5. Carey says:

    My heart goes out to that family. I can’t even imagine. I don’t understand how someone could forget their child was in the car. You had to put her in there to begin with….i just dont get it.

  6. Bex says:

    That is so sad. I can’t believe how stupid some people are! I really can’t.

  7. katkat says:

    I once walked across the street slapped my head and went back to get my son.
    If as a parent you are that stupid and selfish to forget your child for over an hour than you should never have kids and be put in jail!

  8. Renee says:

    too many parents have done this. It seems that no one thinks anything of leaving the dog in the car either. “Hello? folks have cooked food in the car on a hot day…what do you think that you’re doing to your kid or dog?”

    *sigh* makes me very mad.

  9. Amy says:

    Oh that is so very sad. My heart is aching for her mother. Why?

  10. Desert Songbird says:

    We have stories like this frequently in the summer. It is a sad, sad story, and I’m bumfuzzled as to how this happen over and over again. My kids are older, and I continue to feel “off” when I’ve dropped one at a friends house and I drive away. When our daughter spends the night at a friend’s house, it’s very unsettling for me. I always feel better when I can see them and know they are safe.

  11. ModernMami says:

    I feel ya! I can’t stand to hear/read these stories. It just breaks my heart every time.

  12. Twisted Cinderella says:

    I can’t imagine leaving Little Princess in the car alone at all! That is awful and heartbreaking!

  13. BeachMama says:

    Oh what a sad story. Unfortunately this father is not the first one to do this. I saw an Oprah show a few years ago, where fathers came on the show to explain how they forgot their kids in the car and how they live with it every single day. It is so so sad, truthfully these Dad’s just don’t take their kids out enough and they fall asleep and the father forgets they were there. I just couldn’t even imagine the heartbreak.

  14. Dana says:

    yep, very sad indeed. It does seem unplausible to think you could forget (for hours) and leave your child in the car. Not that you couldn’t do it for a second and then remember..but for hours?

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  16. Elizabeth says:

    Those stories make me so sad. I am thinking of the family and how completely broken-hearted they must be. I couldn’t imagine having made a mistake with as serious consequences as that, I pray everyday that I (and anyone else) never will.

  17. Holly Schwendiman says:

    These stories always hurt my heart. Living in the desert we get a lot of terrible death stories from heat like this, burns, drownings from private pools, etc. It all just makes me sick but to be strapped into a car where the inside temperature far exceeds the outside temp just makes me want to vomit. I can’t even imagine how awful.

    Hugs,
    Holly

  18. Melissa says:

    These stories are so heart wrenching. I’m not sure how someone can forget a child in a car. That poor family…

  19. Anne says:

    things like this just tick me off. Parents not using common sense grrr

  20. chesca silva says:

    truly disheartening.

  21. Mommy the Maid says:

    One of my biggest pet peeves is asshats leaving their innocent children in the car. There is never a need for that…EVER. You do not go shopping and leave the baby in the car because it’s easier for you. You do not go visit a friend for a “minute” that turns into 90 and leave the kid in the car. Some dumbass here in Denver left her kids in a running and unlocked Escalade and was “so shocked” that someone took her car with the kids in it. Dumb bitch.

    Sorry, that was my ranting now. I just want you to know that it angers a lot of people and not everyone out there is an idiot.

  22. Debby says:

    We had this happen in Denver a few years back. A fast food worker left her baby in the car on a very hot day while she went to work because she couldn’t find a babysitter. Here’s the kicker…she made sure to close all of the windows and lock the door so her baby would not be taken. We all know how that turned out. It’s just so sad. We had to JUMP through hoops for a year to prove we would be good parents before we could adopt Luna, but some stupid 16 year old girl can become a mother just like that! Who is raising these future parents?
    There is just no reason for this kind of thing to happen! Tips to know when your child is in the car?!?!?!

  23. amy says:

    Ugh…that stuff just drives me CRAZY! You forgot about your child????? Seriously????? I agree with Carmen, can we set some standards here for parents?

  24. MamaBee (Tonya) says:

    So very sad. It was an inexcusable loss. Yes the dad my beat himself up over it forever but that doesn’t help the baby that died. I would kill my husband if he ever did something like this. I’m so cautions and paranoid to start with I think something like this would seriously drive me insane.

    I pray for the mother and her loss.

  25. Mary (mert) says:

    Yup… complete and utter idiots. Every time I hear about these things, I think of my MIL leaving Anna in the car with the windows rolled up… on a 90+ degree day. Feelings of outrage and anger are renewed (at the memory of her indignation when confronted)… And I just want to beat the crap out of someone.

    Hmmm… this jerk was in there for 90 minutes. Gee, I wonder if he was cheating on someone. They need to send him to jail and make an example. I am so sick of hearing people say “I forgot”. Yeah, but you didn’t forget your stupid and sordid meeting.

    OK

    OMG! I don’t think I would ever let MIL babysit unsupervised again! Can you imagine what could have happened?

  26. Michelle in MX says:

    Grrrrr
    It makes me sick to my stomache particularily since my own daughter is three . . .
    I can’t dwell here.

    I was thinking the same thing about my daughter. It’s hard not to.

  27. rach says:

    That’s terrible. I feel so sorry for the child.

    I’ve heard of stories of people leaving their pets unattended for long hours in the car and it’s sad when some pets die because of heat and dehydration. It’s hard to believe people leaving their poor pets like that but I couldn’t believe how someone can actually do it to a child.

  28. Karen is Thrifty says:

    What a terrible loss!

  29. Lisa says:

    I agree, some people just shouldn’t be allowed to be parents. I am always saddened by stories like this. It is such an senseless and unnecessary way to die. What was he thinking?

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