Potty Training Woes

September 3, 2008 by Kailani  
Filed under family topics, my family

Since Baby Bug is supposed to begin pre-school next year, I figure I better get on it and start to seriously potty train her. I’ve been setting the oven timer to go off every hour to remind me to get her on the seat. However, we haven’t been having much luck. In fact, today when I asked her why she can’t pee in the toilet, she pointed “down there” and said, “It not working.”

I can tell it’s going to be a very long process. *sigh*

Spotlight Comment by Stacey @ JameeForever:

THAT made my evening. I sometimes wish when I’m in the car and not near a nice place to stop that mine wouldn’t work either! xo

About the Author: Kailani:
Owner of An Island Life. A flight attendant and mother to 3 beautiful girls. . . living a blessed life in Hawaii.
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34 Responses to “Potty Training Woes”
  1. 1
    Busymama Kellie says:

    We’ve been trying to get started on the potty training too. My least favorite thing to do. Ugh! Well, it’s nice to know someone else is suffering out there too! :)

  2. 2
    Modern Mami says:

    My baby girl is 2 1/2 (turns 3 in December) and though she’ll sit on the potty (for like 1/2 hour), she won’t *do* anything. Yesterday she told her grandma that she’s scared of the potty, but wouldn’t say why.

    I’m also eager to get her trained so I can put her in daycare and give my mom a break!

    I keep hearing that bribing is the way to go. Let us know if you make any progress! :)

  3. 3
    AmyG says:

    How funny, my 2 1/2 yr old said the same thing when she was training. Even now, on occasion, when I make her go, when she’s not ready, she’ll saying, “not working Mommy!”

    Good luck!

  4. 4
    happyathome says:

    I am working on this right now with my 21 month old daughter. She now tells me when she needs a new diaper and is starting to tell me when she needs to use the potty. But it is certainly quite an adventure doing this! Good luck!

  5. 5
    Mike says:

    We used to give 1 M&M for each successful trip to the potty. That seemed to provide some good encouragement.

    You should also try a couple days of setting up a little potty in front of the TV and let her sit there for long periods of time drinking milk and water while watching the TV.

  6. 6
    GIna says:

    Bribe her! Hehe! With just a few M&M’s each time she goes pee!

  7. 7
    tracey says:

    Ugh. Shuddering for you. Hope you have lots of towels, undies and wine.

  8. 8
    Renee says:


    great tips!

  9. 9
    Sheila says:

    hehe…good luck!

  10. 10
    Qtpies7 says:

    Welcome to the world of the second child. None of them cooperate like the first child.
    My 7th child should be a breeze to train. I started the elimination communication when he was born, so he would always know about using the potty. We did it part time, thinking that he would realize there were two places to go. Now that he has a mind of his own, there are still two places to go, and neither of them is the potty chair. He will use the diaper, or take the diaper off and pee and poo wherever he wants to.
    He has perfect control, and he knows when it is going to happen, but will not use the potty.
    He can stop in mid-stream because I don’t want him to pee on the wall. But he won’t start it back up in the potty.
    He knows he has to go, so he pulls his diaper down and lets it go, but not in the potty.

    I am going to have a LOT of fun with this one. He appears to be just like his mommy.

  11. 11
    Amy @ The Q Family says:

    Good luck. Give it time I’m sure she will manage it. It’s so funny when I read about ‘not working’ phrase. I have heard that before ways too many times. :)

  12. 12
    Jill says:

    I can offer no help at all, because a year after we began trying to potty training, The Boy still has accidents all the time. But I hear it’s easier with girls. Good luck!

    (And ply her with juice!!!) :-)

  13. 13
    Christine says:

    When you find out the secret, let me know what it is. My littlest boy is 10 days from turning three and has no desire whatsoever. I read Dr. Sears very lengthy and detailed instructions, but I think I will let the boy try it on his own first. We have bb underwear, a big brother to watch, and three times daily trips to the potty (which isn’t enough). Anyway…good luck to you!

  14. 14
    Melissa says:

    Potty training… ick!! I let my kids drink A LOT of juice while we were potty training. And I’d have them sit on the potty for a long time… we’d read stories, blow bubbles, sing songs… but ONLY if they were on the potty. Good luck… it’s never a fun thing, is it?

  15. 15
    Holly Schwendiman says:

    ROFL – oh hon my second was the SAME way. There were days when I seriously wondered if we’d ever master it!


  16. 16
    Arizona says:

    I started trying with my son when he was about to turn 3 and he simply was not ready. We had lots of starts and stops. Finally, at 3 and a half he was ready and one day I told him I ran out of diapers and couldn’t buy any more. Luckily he never asked why I couldn’t buy more, because I was totally lying and wouldn’t have had a good answer! He just said ok and hasn’t worn diapers since. He has had a few accidents, but nothing awful. He started preschool today, so he got potty trained just in time! He’ll be 4 in a little less than 2 months.

  17. 17
    Dee says:

    tell baby bug at times I have the same thoughts LOL

  18. 18
    Christine@AreWeThereYetMom says:

    That is really cute, “It’s not working!” :D

    Oh, I can just see the light at the end of the tunnel with Lindsay. Having an older brother and sisters, I think helped her along much faster. She goes when she wants too, and went when she was ready. It was if the switch, all of the sudden clicked, that she got the idea.

    She’s just now started with no diapers for most of the morning, while I’m home, but if I’m out running my errands, she’s still in diapers, and for when she’s sleeping at night.

    One thing Lindsay loves, is high fives, and a hug, that she did a great job.

    Good Luck!

  19. 19
    Jenni says:

    She’ll get it!

  20. 20
    Richelle F says:

    We’ve been having our own woes here. Good luck!

  21. 21
    Kelly says:

    Yep… we’ve been “potty training” for 2 weeks…I’m giving my boy (almost 3) until Sat. and then really concentrating on my 19-month old girl who is sooo ready:) Training TWO at the same time has been very, very interesting and dirty:)

  22. 22
    Muthering Heights says:

    Kids say the funniest things sometimes! Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you two!

  23. 23
    VeRonda says:

    Wow! How cute on so many levels. Kids!

  24. 24
    Stacey says:

    THAT made my evening. I sometimes wish when I’m in the car and not near a nice place to stop that mine wouldn’t work either! xo

  25. 25
    Deb - Mom of 3 Girls says:

    Oh yes, we’re right there with you too. Becca knows how to go on the potty – we’re just having a little bit (ok, a lot) of trouble with the ‘only’ going on the potty part. Sigh.

    They will get it eventually, right? :)

  26. 26
    laura says:

    oh my, i feel your pain as i imagine so many others.
    two of my darling circus clowns pretty much proved to me that potty training is so much more than no more diapers. the little darling VERY QUICKLY realizes that THEY hvae control over something you do not. and if they are as stubborn as one or both parents it can be pretty ugly.
    frankly i took the wimpy way out and let them decide…of course one of them made me pretty nervous as the date to start preschool loomed larger and larger on the calendar.
    nowadays i am thankful that i have successfully potty trained four children. darling circus clown #5 i am thrilled that with his special needs we started preschool at age 4 wearing underwear….at 1st grade well we are still working on pooping in the potty. my mantra is we are dealing with a different kind of kid but still it drives me crazy especially when darling daughter #1 teases me that my grandbaby will likely poop in the potty before her little brother does.
    hang in there. i can’t wait to do the happy potty dance when you share your sweet girl’s triumph over the potty.

  27. 27
    Mozi Esme's Mommy says:

    What a smart girl!

  28. 28
    diana/sunshine says:

    lol. i remember asking a similar question of my young daughter. her answer was, “the poop doesn’t want to come out.” we still kid her about that.

  29. 29
    stampedwithgrace says:

    this is how I potty trained my 4 youngest and it worked with both boys and girls. when my child is ready, I pick a time that we’ll be home most of the day preferably for 2-3 days in a row. I put the potty chair in a central location where we’re going to be close to, like the kitchen or front bathroom. then I put the child in a big t-shirt and nothing else. if you put panties on them they will just pee in them thinking it will catch it like a diaper, but if you leave them bare bottomed they will not pee on themselves. this will work in just a few short days if your child is ready :)

  30. 30
    Melissa Markham says:

    Have you thought about trying pull-ups? And encouraging the whole big girl thing? Maybe instead of taking her every hour (kids can become resistant to that, take her right after meal and snack time or before you head out to town. Make a big deal of how she is becoming a big girl with the pull-ups and let her big up some big girl underwear that she can wear once she gets really good about going potty. My experience was that the pull-ups gave them a bit more independence when they could go to the potty without having to have the diaper removed. And they are more comfortable. Of course the big girl underwear are the most comfortable:)

  31. 31
    UptakeInOH says:

    I don’t mean to laugh…but “it’s not working” is hilarious.

    I don’t think you should push it. When she’s ready, she’ll let you know!

  32. 32
    Jen @ One Moms World says:

    I’m right there with ya. My little girl has some GI problems, so I know its taking longer than usual. I keep thinking ok this will be the week… but I’m still saying that. Big (((HUGS))). Let’s hope this will go much easier than we are thinking.

  33. 33
    Tonya says:

    Ha, well at least she seems to know what the problem is.

    I totally feel your pain, I’m just beginning to start training the twins. I’ve had to clean up a lot of pee off the floor of late and one of them has peed in there once.

  34. 34
    Pamela says:

    sorry I didn’t take tme to read all your responses so someone may have already suggested:

    put her in cloth underwear so that when she wets her pants she is uncomfortable. I swear it will be the edge you need.


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