Aloha Friday #47

August 28, 2008 by  
Filed under aloha friday, blogging

Welcome to this week’s edition of Aloha Friday.

In Hawaii, Aloha Friday is the day that we take it easy and look forward to the weekend. So I thought that on Fridays I would take it easy on posting, too. Therefore, I’ll ask a simple question for you to answer. Nothing that requires a lengthy response.

If you’d like to participate, just post your own question on your blog and leave your link below. Don’t forget to visit the other participants! It’s a great way to make new bloggy friends!

Today’s question is:

Have you ever felt like taking a long blogging break?

I’ve been dealing with some blogging drama lately and as much as I try not to let it bother me, it does. I just don’t understand why some people just assume the worst in others and try to bully them into conceeding. Aren’t we all supposed to be adults here? If you have a problem with someone, shouldn’t you just confront them personally instead of bad mouthing them to everyone you can think of?

Over the past 2 years, blogging has been a overwhelmingly positive experience. And even though it took valuable time away from my family, I continued to post every day and built amazing friendships. But now I Iook around the room and see a 6 year old who is screaming for attention and a baby who is not a baby anymore. It’s these times that I know that fighting a cyber war with someone I’ve never met is just not worth the time and effort. I have better things to do, you know?

It’s these times that I think I may need a nice long blogging break.


About the Author: Kailani:
Owner of An Island Life and Family Review Network. Wife, mother, and flight attendant . . . living a blessed life in Hawaii.
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69 Responses to “Aloha Friday #47”
  1. 51
    BlapherMJ says:

    Unfortunately, it seems no matter what kind of work you’re in, there are always people who love to stir up drama. I work in an office by day and the petty back-stabbing that goes on is ridiculous. It’s truly a shame that this goes on in the blogosphere as well. I guess some people are compelled to behave that way. Try not to let it get to you!

  2. 52
    valmg says:

    Kailani,
    I only have 2 words for you.
    YOU ROCK!

    Ok, a couple more. When did I ever have only two words to say.
    Happiness is the best revenge, as is success. You’re obviously envied because you’re successful and personable. Keep being you. Anyone that truly cares or matters will know the real truth.

  3. 53

    Hi Kailani,

    This is the third time today that I’ve tried submitting a comment – not sure why they’re not posting, but here goes:

    We, your loyal fans, adore you. I’m sorry a few rotten apples have spoiled the cider for you. Know that we’ll be here for you, whether you decide you want that break or not.

    I think we all get tired of blogging, sometimes. Heck, I’m tired of it, this week. My little boy is 7 months old, and instead of chasing after him with the video camera as he crawls everywhere, I feel like I’m online. Now, I know I’m only online when he’s napping, but still… I feel like it’s cutting into our time.

    Anyways, I left you an award over at my site.

    Take care!

  4. 54
    Lisa C. says:

    hang in there girl…
    We ♥ you..

  5. 55
    Ashley Ladd says:

    I’ve only seriosly blogged for the past few months, but I’ve been writing books for years. As per the book writing, yeah, there’s been times I wondered if it was worth it and the time away from family, the frustration, or even just writer’s block. I wouldn’t doubt I’ll eventually have times I feel the same about blogging. For now, I’m preposting a lot of my blogs so I don’t have to do it nightly when I’m tired and crazy from the day job or on a writing deadline for my books.

  6. 56
    Kila says:

    I’ve taken a break for a few days. But then I miss my online friends.

    Also, I like to write things down/journal, and it bothers me if I get too far behind!

  7. 57
    Forgetfulone says:

    I don’t really want a blogging break, but it consumes my thoughts too much, so maybe I need one. Just not yet.

  8. 58
    Tammy says:

    Oh, I can so understand your need for a long break!
    I’ve been taking more and more little breaks lately..
    I’ve been blogging for just over two years and the first year, it was almost like an obsession! But in this second year I’ve scaled way back because I began to realize, just like you, that my little ones were growing up too fast…and it would also be nice for my husband to see more than the back of my head as I type, too!
    Life is so short and childhood even shorter.

    But hope you don’t go away completely…so many of us would miss you way too much!

    Hugs,
    ~Tammy

  9. 59
    Sunny says:

    Hi! Happy blog break!

  10. 60

    Yes very much so. In fact I took a 24 blogging break on my birthday this past thursday, which was refreshing, and I am taking a 6 day blogging break in a week because my husband and I are going on a cruise. I definitely understand where you are coming from, and you should do what is best for you and your family. I know you wouldn’t leave us forever, even if you do scale back your blogging a bit.

  11. 61

    Yep-it’s like everything else in our lives, we need to walk away sometimes to gain back the control and understanding of why we do it to begin with.

  12. 62
  13. 63
    Dee says:

    who’s causing you drama? Tell me who and I’ll kick their butts! :) I make it a point to always leave positive feedback and comments……..no one needs to be put down, harassed or scolded on their blog. Hang in there.

  14. 64
    Cath Lawson says:

    Hi Kailani – I found your blog through She-Power. I can never resist anything tropical sounding.

    I get those cyber attacks too. And I know it’s best to ignore them – after all, it’s usually the attacker who has the problem. But I must admit, I let them get to me too.

    Re: Taking a break – I’ve done that a couple of times over the last 16 months, due to ill health etc. Both breaks were for 3 or 4 weeks. My traffic suffered a little, because I wasn’t writing anything – but it picked up again. And people came back.

    I say – if you really feel like you need a break – take one. Your health is far more important than anything.

  15. 65
    Marianna says:

    When I started my blog I decided that I would post once a week. This was reasonable considering that I was starting a new business and looking after a spouse who has been diagnosed with a chronic illness and living with my own chronic disease – Rheumatoid Arthritis.

    It seems to me that you have become discouraged by what others have posted (You have alluded to ‘cyber wars’) which then has dampened your joy in blogging.

    When we feel joy, our body responds in a way that is good for us emotionally, mentally & physically. However, when we feel the negative emotions, our body also responds – in ways that harm us.

    So, my question to you is: When you make a post, are you feeling stress? (Experiencing looping thoughts that may sound like, “oh no, what kind of reaction am I going to get?” or “gee, I hope I don’t get negative comments on this post?” or, or, or….)

    If so, this means you are going through a stress response. Your job is to decide whether the joy you get from blogging is worth the risk/fear of the negative comments and also whether you need to re-visit how often or if at all you post.

    There is also something called ‘overcare’ which means that we become burnt out from caring too much. Is it possible that you may be experiencing this?

  16. 66
    Lorie says:

    Hi kailani..
    Pearl City in the house!! I would love to participate in Aloha Fridays and I’ll start this comming Friday. I’m glad I found your Site..
    Good to see ya Sistah!!

    Hugz Lorie

  17. 67

    I am currently on a blogging break and enjoying it…

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